Hello, welcome back to Synergy Mindset’s Podcast, bringing you inspiration and strategy for your personal and professional growth. Today I am sharing a story of how I failed at my plan of running the Boundary Bay Marathon and the Mindset Shift that I was able to achieve to run the 5 K with my son and then make a new plan.
Today I am sharing my story to equip you with the tools and in hopes, it may inspire you in a time of frustration or feeling as if you failed. I first discovered this quote on the side of the fridge at my daughter’s high school and it has become one of my favorite.
The dream to run a marathon began in 2009 when I signed up for my first Sun Run training clinic. At that time, I was about 38 lbs overweight and smoked about 1 pack a day of cigarettes. My Grandmother found out she had cancer and died about three weeks later. When she was in the hospital she gave me a check for Christmas. I told her I couldn’t even think about Christmas and that I wanted her to get better but she insisted I took the check.
That check and the wake-up call of Cancer was great motivation and meaning for me to make a change. I used the money to purchase the Sun Run training, learn to run your first 10k.
At that time, I did not think it would be possible to run 10k, it felt impossible. There were many challenges such as needing orthotics, finding out I was missing a bone in my foot, overcoming asthma and a case of plantar fasciitis and I did complete the training, quit smoking and lost about 40 lbs. When I crossed my first race day finish line I felt as if I could do anything in the world if I set my mind to it, I also felt like my Grandma would have been proud.
Then a few years later I began training for a marathon and was eating healthy, skipping on my work breaks, riding my bike to work and running all the time. I had a heart attack and went through the journey I have shared with you all before, it was 18 months before I could run again.
Once again, I did the learn to run 10K training program and did another 10K run at The Vancouver Sun Run. I committed to running a marathon in 2017 in Victoria and was stopped in training by the forest fires causing my heart condition to flare up. Then again I committed to training for the Boundry Bay Marathon in November of 2018.
This time I took all the steps necessary,
- I set a realistic timeline and found a course that was mainly gravel due to my foot pain and to prevent plantar fasciitis.
- I purchased a training plan on how to run a Marathon and made a running schedule.
- My doctor gave me her approval to run a Marathon.
- I purchased a new pair of shoes
- I got a pass at the gym and began to cross training my core.
- I posted publicly on my facebook page that I was committing to run the marathon.
The training was going great and I was well on my way until the second year of forest fires came. The smoke was thick and they warned anyone with a heart condition to stay indoors. Despite the warning, I tried to train early, late and no matter what it causes such severe chest spasms that I had to quit running.
Next, I moved to a treadmill and within a week my foot began to throb. I had since begun my business and gym time was nearly impossible to work in.
My son was diagnosed with Autism and school went back in September. There was not a way I could see to make up for the training I had lost and I became discouraged.
I was being coached in business and this had come up. My coach asked me what I was struggling with the most and I shared the limited time I had to work, picking up, dropping off my son and being available if the school needed me.
My coach asked me why I had not shared that and I told her it was because I had feared my clients would see me as week, giving up my plan to run a marathon and only being available to work with them 4 hours a day.
That is the thing with powerful questions, they really get you thinking. That was when she asked me if I could consider it my superpower, that I only offer 4 hours a day to clients and that I take those that I feel are the best fit and that other mothers would understand that my child must come first and that changing the plan is necessary.
She helped me turn from frustration, pride, ego, anger, butting my head against the wall to grace, compassion, self-love and opened my mindset up.
My plan was to run a marathon and the goal is to be in the best shape of my life by the time I turn 40. I realize that there are many other ways to do that. Another goal I have is to put my family first and being a single Mom and Granny while running a business doesn’t allow for me to train for hours at a time.
I emailed the host of the Marathon and she allowed me to downgrade to the 5k race. My son was so happy when I asked him if he would like to race with me. The course was perfect for him and everyone high fived and encouraged him all along the way. In the end, seeing his smile and the confidence he gained from this was worth it and my heart was full.
My goal is to put my family first, run my business to use my gifting and help others and be in the best shape of my life by my 40th birthday. I found a plan that will allow me to workout at home. https://www.docjenfit.com came up in my Instagram feed because I follow Louis Howes and he shared a picture from the Pencils of Promis Event and she was his guest. I was inspired by her name and found out she has incredible programs and her expertise is injury and that is just what I need.
If there is a goal that you have and your plan has not been taking you to it, I encourage you to sit down and be really honest with yourself. Why is it that it is not working and is there another way you can get there. If you need any help you can send me an email and I am happy to help.
Next week I will be interviewing Danny Bader for another edition of Mindset Monday. If there is anyone you would like to hear on the show or if you have a story you would like to share please reach out and let me know, I am happy to share your story or find the answers to any questions you have on mindset.