From Diagnosis to Dreaming Again with Dr. Jennifer “Kaylene” Carter

For years Kaylene experienced many medical symptoms and illnesses. After a long journey, she was diagnosed with Complex PTSD. While in treatment she was able to link the medical challenges she had been faced with to the trauma from the abuse she endured as a child.

Today on the show, From Diagnosis to Dreaming Again with Dr. Jennifer “Kaylene” Carter, we share her courageous journey to heal from Complex PTSD, Fibromyalgia and overcome the hold it had on her life. She began dreaming again, wrote and published her first book and shares her journey with anyone that would like to overcome their own challenges in life.

Kaylene has a passion for poetry and songwriting. She is a singer and songwriter and is working as a Professor and Life Coach for entertainers. She is the author of the book: WHEN THE MIRROR SHATTERS, Breaking the Bondage of Performance Mentality.

Topics we cover in this interview:

  • Different types of abuse in relationships and resources to spot it
  • Strategies to heal from PTSD
  • Physical abuse as a child
  • How to live life on your own as a teenager

Kaylene was abused by her mother from a young age. A neighbour who was like a Grandma to her intervened and for a while, her Mother quit hitting her. Just after she turned 18 her Mother physically assaulted her in a horrific incident that she shares on the podcast interview. You can listen to here.

Before it got better it got worse. Kaylene experienced the loss of family support and the loss of her church family as people picked and chose sides. She tells us that she didn’t know how to spot the signs of abuse and had she been able to, she may have been able to experience healing sooner.

Due to living in captivity and being abused from a young age she experienced a lot of pain and dysfunction in her life. In her teens, she was diagnosed with  Fibromyalgia and in her 20’s PTSD. Some of the symptoms she experienced were:

  • reoccurring nightmares
  • visual flashbacks
  • blood sugar issues from her adrenaline being cranked up too high for so long.
  • back pain
  • headaches

After leaving home she had to support herself and took on jobs as a waitress. Kaylene put herself through school and accomplished her degree. It was a difficult path and opened her up to more abuse. She ended up in relationships that were toxic and didn’t even know until she began to learn about verbal and spiritual abuse.

Finding therapy was a challenge as medical insurance was not available through the jobs she was working. When she was able to find some help, she took the following methods:

Tools to Heal

  • facia release sessions -Trauma can be stored in your facia
  • music therapy
  • writing therapy
  • making self care a priority
  • going to a coffee shop
  • attending a concert
  • making a goal to live the healthiest life possible
  • using a schedule to manage medication
  • remembering to breathe, smile and laugh.
  • a 60 hour outpatient program
  • therapist
  • PTSD workbook

Q. How did you make the connection between your physical body and complex PTSD?

A. “Listen to your body.” She felt it in her body every day throughout her 20’s and 30’s. She used to feel like she was just being lonely at home and then she learned that trauma can be stored in your facia and be released.

Q. Do you celebrate your accomplishments or look for the next win?

A.  She used to look for the next destination but now she knows that more she trusts God and puts her faith in God, knows that God loves her for her and not her accomplishments, she can slow down and enjoy the journey, take time to celebrate.

Q. Tell us more about the book, what is your purpose of writing it?

A. “To give others hope.” She began writing to help others. She tells us it was like a form of therapy for herself and healing. She was able to see all the times that God intervened. Each time she reads her story she feels empowered and this is her hope, that others feel empowered, inspired and have hope for their journey.

Resources:

Nonprofits-

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Bio:

Dr. Jennifer “Kaylene” Carter began working in the entertainment industry at the age of thirteen, alongside many up-and-coming stars in Orlando’s pop music scene. As a teenager, she transitioned from acting to singing. Kaylene recorded her first solo album (which she wrote and coproduced) during her senior year of high school. She also worked as a dancer and a runway model, making several appearances on both national and international television. A second solo album followed, which showcased her artistic versatility and style. Her career led her to creative projects in Los Angeles, Nashville, and New York City. Taking her love of lyric to the next level, Kaylene pursued advanced degrees in Creative Writing and Entertainment Business. Driven by her passion for poetry and songwriting, she is now working as a professor and life coach for entertainers.

Fearless Faith Mindset with MJ Callaway

MJ is the first guest on the show that has not only  beat cancer but is currently overcoming it now. She has a fearless faith mindset and came on the podcast to share her testimony of just how much can be overcome for anyone that is facing something challenging.

MJ Callahan is an award-winning and 7times author, member of the National Speakers Association as well as a keynote speaker.

After surviving three life-altering crises, she shares her setbacks and how to Bounce Up higher and stronger.

On today’s episode you will learn about:

  • A Faith Mindset
  • How to bounce Up higher and stronger and not just back
  • Some suggestions on how to approach beating Cancer
  • Having fun in dark places
  • Killing it in sales

MJ has overcome 3 major traumas including divorce and cancer. Tune in to the interview to hear her heartfelt story. Find out how she was able to add happiness to the people around her and get through Chemo by turning what is not a very positive experience into one that had fun and hope in it.

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CJ’s Powerful Question

What can I do with I have?

Scripture Mentioned:

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Favourite Book

Favorite Things To Do:

  • Plan ahead
  • Drink coffee in coffee shops
  • Traveling and loves beaches.

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MJ’s Bio

Mj Callaway, CSP works with organizations that want to boost their resiliency during disruptions while increasing results and revenue.  As an award-winning author, keynote speaker and corporate trainer, Mj is known for building team momentum, shifting attitudes, converting key strategies into fun activities, and getting results. After surviving three life-altering crises, Mj candidly shares her setbacks and how toBounce Up higher and stronger.  She was the only female sales executive to reach the Top Five in sales for a national company, producing three times her quota.  She authored seven books “including two Warner Books best-sellers” and sold a children’s game to Disney.  Her next book, Bounce Up:  The New Resiliency to Bounce Higher and Stronger, hits the market on Jan. 10, 2020.  She’s a professional member of the National Speakers Association and is a coffee café fanatic.

Connect with Mj on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, or www.MjCallaway.com.

 

A New Name

Welcome back to the podcast after a long summer break. The leaves are quickly falling off the trees, the nights are coming sooner, it is getting colder at night if you are in Canada.

If you are a first-time listener feel free to skip to the next episode, our first interview of the season.

Welcome back to all of you that have been long-time listeners of the show. In this short episode, I am going to tell you a bit about my summer and what to expect moving forward.

My favorite part of the summer was spending time sitting on the beach admiring the beauty of the mountains and nature around me. The stress fizzled away and I was left with peace and awe.

My family and I moved to a new city just as the summer began. It made for a summer packed with to do’s and a lot of driving. I had taken a course over the summer and continued to drive back an forth to complete it.

It was a summer of contemplation. I had posted to see who was listening to the podcast and spent a lot of time deciding if I wanted to keep it going. I prayed on what God’s plan for my life is and what path is the one for me.

After the last boxes were unpacked, my course completed and my home became settled, I took the last two weeks off to spend with my family. We enjoyed eating meals together, sitting out on the patio late into the night, fun at the beach, the zoo, and the park.

I re-evaluated my values and my goals for the next while. One huge realization I came to is that I love hosting this podcast and I get a lot out of it myself. Each guest shares a story of courage, lessons learned and resources that helped them to get through. Over the years, many guests have influenced many of the choices I have made and it is thanks to them that I am able to keep this show going and now have a Life Coaching business.

In the beginning, the podcast was called A Second Chance. Each person would ask me which second chance story they should share.  It became clear that most people have been given multiple chances at life:

  • in physical health
  • in overcoming a mistake they made
  • overcoming PTSD
  • overcoming trauma
  • overcoming something someone else did to them.

Then I started my Life Coaching Business and made the podcast the name of the business, Synergy Mindset Coaching. I realized quickly that being a business coach alone was not what God made me to do.

After praying over it all summer I came up with the name:

Valleys and Mountaintops

Most of our guests have told us stories about how they walked through valleys and climbed mountain tops in the sense of:

  • Overcoming cancer
  • Healing from PTSD
  • Learning to live in a wheelchair
  • Losing their job and starting over
  • Leaving an abusive relationship
  • Overcoming gun violence
  • Learning to live with a physical disability

There are so many individual experiences yet many share a few things in common:

  • They were persistent
  • Had faith
  • Set goals
  • Overcome obstacles
  • Had a growth mindset
  • Were on the learner path
  • Sought wisdom
  • and Were brave.

As we begin a new season we will hear stories from people that have climbed life’s mountains, walked through the valleys and share to inspire those that are in a difficult situation.

Stay tuned, coming up is a Fearless Faith Mindset with MJ Callaway. She has overcome cancer and is facing a battle once again. You will hear her share her success story as well as her battle plan to overcome it once again.

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Heal From The Ground Up with Michael Hsu

Many of us grow up feeling invisible or not good enough. Some of us are aware of it and others have yet to discover it. If we are faced with trauma or have parents that faced difficulties in coping in life, we may incorporate that in a negative way within ourselves.

If someone is feeling anxious, angry, sad or depressed can you intuitively feel and sense it? Today we talk about what it is like to be a highly sensitive person.

You may have a gift of high sensitivity. About 1/5 people are blessed with this gift. If they are not aware of this gift it can be used against them. Michael teaches them how to use this gift in a positive way.

Michael specializes in helping people heal anger, anxiety and depression from the ground up. He helps them get to the root of the problem and works with people that are highly sensitive.

What you will learn about from this interview

  • How to stop feeling responsible for others
  • Ways to identify when you are feeling someone else’s emotions vs. your own
  • How to honour what you need
  • How to speak up
  • Quit worrying about making others angry
  • How to know your true self
  • Speaking your needs respectfully
  • How to create an identity

His Journey

  • Michael shares his personal story of how his parent’s problems affected him in his adult life. His Mother experienced panic attacks and his father carried tension, (anger and emotional suppression).

 

Intergenerational Trauma

What happens when we take on the belief that we are not enough from others? We learn about how the hurt and trauma of our ancestors affect our daily lives. It is often at a subconscious level and Michael shares about how to discover how it affects you and what to do about it.

P.E.W.F Process

P.E.W.F is a healing model you can use anytime in your life. You can pick up his book to learn more: Here

P-    Problem that brings up the emotion

E –    Identify the Emotion

W – Worst case scenario

F –   Feeling about self

Two of the most common negative feelings about self are:

  • Failure
  • Non-existence

Michael has worked hard to consciously connect and understand what his parents were feeling. He was able to find his true identity and now helps others to free themselves from the ties of the past.

Listen to the podcast interview for the whole story:

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Michael’s Bio

In 2010, Michael Hsu started his private practice called Heal from the Ground Up, which targets the root of emotional, mental, and physical well-being so we can see life-lasting and transformative changes. As a professional life coach, holistic health practitioner and global love activist, he facilitates people in the process of unlocking their emotional power, heal their body from the ground up and shine their light onto the world. As such, everything he shares with you in his books comes from his own healing and transformation, which began with cultivating his emotional power. Ultimately, this gift that healed and empowered him emotionally, is the very gift he shares with you through his writing.

 

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What 5 Years of Podcasting Taught Me

5 years ago today my life was turned upside down. I had a heart attack and was eventually diagnosed with a heart condition. From the hospital, I started a podcast and it was one of the best things I ever did.

I have shared 90 peoples stories over the years. They are brave and courageous overcomers of unimaginable trauma, accidents and unfortunate situations. Ranging from near billionaires, millionaires, authors, CEO’s, Mom’s, Dad’s, Lawyers and every other imaginable label it became apparent that we all want the same things: To be seen, to use our talents to help others and to have meaningful connections with others.

The most important things that I have learned from their stories

  • You get to decide why it happened to you and what it means
  • People that have a growth mindset are the ones that make it through anything
  • Optimism goes a long way
  • There are no victim mindsets in success
  • Success is achieved by intentionally doing things over and over
  • Everyone has a purpose, gifts and talents
  • Prayer and Grace are powerful.
  • Money doesn’t buy happiness but many happy people attract money.

Mindset

Over the last 5 years, I have been through many ups and downs. I learned that mindset is important.  There have been people I interviewed that lost everything yet still kept a positive mindset and went on to be successful speakers, coaches and to help others. A person can not use their mind alone to overcome a challenge however it certainly helps.  There is a dance that takes place in discovering what can be overcome by growth, hard work and persistence and what is in God’s hands.

When I had a heart attack and lost my job, my family and my health I spent a lot of time in grief, feeling sorry for myself and wondering why. I still don’t know all the answers but I know that it was a gift to have had the opportunities that have come into my life since and I no longer hold onto feeling sorry for myself. Grief comes and goes, our emotions change from day to day and moment to moment. The most important things cannot be purchased and I am grateful for the opportunity to learn them.

I have learned

  • The value of listening to my children over buying them things
  • How to live peacefully in a tiny home
  • How to listen
  • To do today what I used to put off until tomorrow
  • Thanking a friend for something is important no matter how small
  • To ask for feedback and allow for improvement.

The person that I am today is resilient, kind, loving and patient and it would not have been possible if I had not gone through the difficulties. I am still not healed and I do not know why I am not able to be healed.

Broken People

What I do know is that God has a plan for my life. I have been put in dark places where I would not have had the opportunity to be the light to others without this medical issue.  There are people broken beyond our realizations in our day to day lives. They put on happy faces and are the most loving and respected people of all.

If only others knew the isolation they feel inside the hurt, the pain, the feeling that if anyone discovers their secret they will not be their friends. The last thing I learned is to be a friend to the rich, the poor, the fake and the authentic, to judge not and love more because everyone needs someone to see them, to listen and to love them no matter what.

Our time here is unknown

I don’t know how long I will have on earth and no one really does. What we have is this moment, today, right now. What stands out to me from all the wisdom that has been shared on Podcast is to love your kids, let go of grudges and regrets, love well, receive and give grace, smell the roses, enjoy the sunset, kiss a baby, pet a puppy, eat ice cream, listen to God, live your life fully.

Thank you to everyone that has been a part of my journey in the last 5 years. Everyone that has shared a story on the Podcast my church family, my friends, my family and most importantly, my kids.

Much Love

Gina

 

How To Answer Why Did This Happen To Me? with Aaron Keith Hawkins

Aaron was a Police Chief, Husband and Father when he experienced a close call with death. After realizing he could have suffered a heart attack, mini-stroke or aneurism he experienced a change in his life. He shares his journey through more than a decade of personal growth and a shift from surviving to now living an intentional life that is thriving.

Throughout his career, he was often asked, “Why did this happen to me”?  He shares his experience answering this for himself as well as how he helped others navigate through this process to understanding. Listen: Here

 

 

 

A Trip To The Hospital

Aaron’s life direction was changed in one night when he woke up in pain. He had realized in about 10 seconds that he couldn’t walk it off and had a light bulb moment in the realization that his family may possibly find him on the floor in the morning.

He asked his wife to call 911 just before collapsing to the floor. At the moment he was checking out, he experienced a wave of regret as if someone slapped him across the head and told him to look at all the missed opportunities he had experienced. Aaron made a promise to God that if he let him live, he would change.

After a short stay in the hospital, Aaron was allowed to go home. They sent him for testing for a couple of weeks and he did receive a full recovery in his health. In the end, he was not given a certain diagnosis although they suspected he experienced a mini-stroke.

Transformation

He felt guilty when he came to the realization that he had been coasting through life instead of thriving through it. Aaron found it difficult to shake off the regret he felt. He didn’t know what he needed to do differently and that was the beginning of a decade long journey through personal development. He had felt that something changed and knew he needed to take a step in a different direction. The biggest changes he made were

  • Moving from living life to fit into living life to impact others and for his loved ones
  • Going back to school and finishing his Graduate Degree in leadership
  • Reading Tony Robbins, Unleash the Power Within
  • Began reading books in Personal Development, Human Performance and Motivational Development.

“When I changed the way I started showing up in the world it really changed the way I felt about myself, the level of gratitude that I had for the people around me and my perspective about what I was influencing in my life.”

 The more he learned about the world of Personal Development, Motivational Theory and Human Needs Theory, the more he learned it and applied the changes relationships evolved in

  • Career
  • The relationship with his wife
  • His relationship with his daughter
  • Friends.

Being in Law Enforcement allowed Aaron to use everything he was learning every day. It increased the success he had helping others. His position allowed him to deal with people on what could have been their worst day ever.

Light Bulb Moment

One day Aaron’s Wife asked him what he loved about his job. He realized that he loved teaching. He loved getting someone from point A to point Z. It was a lightbulb moment that he needed to teach others from his learning. He took the following steps

  • Picked up Brendan Burchard’s book
  • Built a website
  • Recorded a Podcast episode
  • Stepped out of his comfort zone, terrified for each first
  • Coached someone
  • Began doing Social Media on his own

Using what he went through, he encourages his clients to share something that scares them and tells them to go do it.

Aaron knew his Law Enforcement career was coming to an end and began to really grow his Social Media, website and podcast. Today he helps people get clients using LinkedIn and now has somewhere around 15k followers.

Hitting The Wall

If you have had something happen in your life that has left you feeling like you hit a wall Aaron shares some advice. Choose why you think it happened. He believes that we get to assign the reason and meaning to what has happened and no one can tell us it is right or wrong. If you have hit a wall

  • Decide what the meaning is
  • Decide why it happened.
  • Don’t let anyone tell you if it is right or wrong
  • Make it a good reason.

The Fear of Public Speaking

Aaron has a physical reaction each time he presents a key-note. Just like riding a roller coaster, there is a fine line between fear and exhilaration. He feels safer working on a Swat team than standing on a stage. He tells us he is never safer than when he is with his team.

Despite his workplace success he still experiences the physical fear when he begins speaking including, a racing heart and sweaty hands.

Favourite Book:

Man’s Search for Meaning by Dr. Victor Frankyl

Favourite Podcast:

The Brendon Show by Brendon Burchard

Aaron’s Bio:

“Aaron Keith Hawkins is the inspirational author of Million Dollar Influence, a leadership keynote speaker, podcast host, LinkedIn sales trainer, and influence expert. He thrives on helping others improve their business and personal lives by mastering the skill of authentic influence, personal leadership, and value-based decision making.

Aaron completed his graduate studies at the University of Oklahoma where he majored in Administrative Leadership with a focus on Professional Coaching. He’s also honoured to be a rare alumnus of the invitation-only FBI National Academy in Quantico, Virginia. In addition to being an entrepreneur, Aaron spent over 2 decades as a public servant, serving as a Police Captain in his New Jersey community. He and his wife of 23 years currently live in New Jersey with their 13 year old daughter.”

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Vision with Geoff Hughes

Life is full of twists and turns and ups and downs. For our guest today, there has been no exception. He shares the story of his life; from being raised by a Single-Mother on Welfare to becoming an unfulfilled millionaire to his current life that is filled with a successful business and family.

He tells us how he bought his Porche 911, the car he had always dreamed of. However, having a home and becoming a Millionaire was not fulfilling. Geoff shares his journey through the realization that the vision he had created for his life didn’t include happiness.

Through this journey, he shares how he was able to create a deep and meaningful vision for his life and see it come to fruition.

Topics Discussed:

  • How to create a deep vision for your life
  • Changing your sub-conscience mind
  • Finding success with meaning in your life

In this interview with Jeff you will find out how he created the life of his dreams and some tips on how you can too. You can listen to the whole Podcast interview: Here 

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Something to Live for with Rob Decker

How do you free yourself from the struggles and pains that started in the generations before you were born? What happens when a parent is not equipped with everything they need to parent well, and they are not able to learn the skills necessary? Our guest today shares his story of a difficult and dark start to life, followed by struggle nearly ending with suicide. He takes us on his journey where he found God, hope and healing. We will hear how he found forgiveness, love and freed himself from the chains of addiction and anger. Today Rob shares: How to Rebuild Your Life After Trying To Take It & Find Hope And Healing In Jesus.
Rob Decker: Husband, Father, Personal Fitness Trainer, Health Coach, Best Selling Author, Speaker. Rob has a beautiful wife that he has been married to for 5 years and a son with a baby on the way. He is sharing a difficult testimony to give others hope. Fitness and faith are a cornerstone for him today. Rob’s Testimony starts with his Mom. She had a difficult childhood that included: rape, abuse and neglect. She was thrown from foster home to foster home and was encouraged to have an abortion when she became pregnant with Rob. Being against abortion, she married the man that Rob knew as his Dad. Rob found out a little later that this man was not his Dad and was not allowed to use his last name. This created separation, strife and division between Rob and his sister. This man, referred to as his father, was an x military fighter in the military and his parenting style conflicted with his Mom’s. Rob witnessed a lot of violence, drug use and darkness. By the time he was a teenager, his Dad had left his Mom and everyone he loved was on Meth. This is an inspiring story and you won’t want to miss all of the details, you can listen on the Podcast: Here At the young age of 14 or 15 Rob began his journey of using and drinking. He experienced:
  • Being in a dozen fights
  • Having a shotgun pulled on him
  • Getting very verbal with people
  • Being evicted from his house
In Rob’s 20 he experienced a chain of bad relationships. If a relationship was good he sabotaged it himself. He met a man that preached about Jesus Christ and he was not yet open to hearing about him. In total survivor mode, Rob made poor choices that included selling drugs and becoming involved in a dangerous and destructive relationship. Rob was working out and at that time was the only positive thing he had done with his time. In the pain of another relationship ending, he accepted the offer to attend a bible study and accepted the Salvation offered through Jesus Christ. A Dark Night After his new found faith he ended up with the girl he had ended the relationship with. In a heated argument, he went downstairs and fell asleep. Rob woke to the Police banging on the door and she told him that she told the police he had raped and beat her. Rob’s emotions became too much to handle and he jumped out of the third story window. On the way down, his foot clipped an awning and changed the direction of his fall. Instead of dying, Rob found himself looking up, unable to move in a tremendous amount of pain. At this moment, Rob asked God why he let him live? His plan had not gone the way he had expected. In excruciating pain, Rob was arrested for rape and put under 24-hour surveillance. The officer told him he was a bad person right before she showed up at the hospital. Conversation With God After she was shown out of the hospital Rob had a conversation with God. He asked what was going to happen? In the moment of conversation, he was given great peace. He heard a voice that told him the charges would be dropped, the bills paid and that he would walk again. Rob dosed off into a dream of playing soccer. He woke up and the light, sounds and pain was all back. The charges were dropped and he was allowed to have guests. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast interview: Here What We Learn:
  • How his Mom responded when she visited
  • How he walked again
  • The forgiveness he found for others
  • Building a relationship with his Mom
  • Receiving a bill for $800K+.
Faith In Action While Rob was healing some Christian brothers from church picked him up and brought him to church back brace and all. He was broken and beaten and kept turning to God. Living with his Mom was not working as she was taking his pain meds and he ended up staying with friends. Rob went for long walks, read his bible and prayed a lot. He knew that God didn’t want him to continue to live off of Disability and despite the immense pain, he continued taking steps to heal For a couple of years, Rob lived out of a garage. He had been a Personal Trainer prior to the accident took a job at a gym for a short time. He was asked to train his bosses roommate and she became his wife. Quitting Drinking Rob’s wife was a big part of his ability to quit drinking. With God’s help and a nine-month battle, Rob quit drinking. Not before making a big mistake. Rob drove under the influence of alcohol and crashed her car. In the moments of difficulty, Rob negotiated with God and asked for his help. He agreed to move with her, marry her and quit drinking. God basically bailed Rob out of the situation and he quit drinking. What is amazing, he had no desire to drink again. They moved out to Colorado Springs and started a family. God opened some amazing doors for Rob and he began doing work that really helped people spiritually and emotionally. Faith and Fitness Rob brought his experience healing from a life of trauma and difficulty and his love of fitness together. He is now able to have deep conversations with people while helping them to strengthen their physical bodies at the same time. His wife and himself are creating a ministry in their garage. It is a place where people can feel safe to share their past and find forgiveness, fellowship and support. Rob can help them to :
  • Get off of drugs
  • Pray
  • Talk about God
  • Experience Fellowship
  • Do Pushups and Prayer
  • Do Jumping Jacks and Jesus
  • Find Faith, family and Fitness.
The whole interview is available for you to listen to 24/7
https://anchor.fm/synergymindsetcoaching/episodes/Something-To-Live-For-With-Rob-Decker-e45fo1
Favourite Book: The Holy Bible https://www.bible.com Links: