Something to Live for with Rob Decker

How do you free yourself from the struggles and pains that started in the generations before you were born? What happens when a parent is not equipped with everything they need to parent well, and they are not able to learn the skills necessary? Our guest today shares his story of a difficult and dark start to life, followed by struggle nearly ending with suicide. He takes us on his journey where he found God, hope and healing. We will hear how he found forgiveness, love and freed himself from the chains of addiction and anger. Today Rob shares: How to Rebuild Your Life After Trying To Take It & Find Hope And Healing In Jesus.
Rob Decker: Husband, Father, Personal Fitness Trainer, Health Coach, Best Selling Author, Speaker. Rob has a beautiful wife that he has been married to for 5 years and a son with a baby on the way. He is sharing a difficult testimony to give others hope. Fitness and faith are a cornerstone for him today. Rob’s Testimony starts with his Mom. She had a difficult childhood that included: rape, abuse and neglect. She was thrown from foster home to foster home and was encouraged to have an abortion when she became pregnant with Rob. Being against abortion, she married the man that Rob knew as his Dad. Rob found out a little later that this man was not his Dad and was not allowed to use his last name. This created separation, strife and division between Rob and his sister. This man, referred to as his father, was an x military fighter in the military and his parenting style conflicted with his Mom’s. Rob witnessed a lot of violence, drug use and darkness. By the time he was a teenager, his Dad had left his Mom and everyone he loved was on Meth. This is an inspiring story and you won’t want to miss all of the details, you can listen on the Podcast: Here At the young age of 14 or 15 Rob began his journey of using and drinking. He experienced:
  • Being in a dozen fights
  • Having a shotgun pulled on him
  • Getting very verbal with people
  • Being evicted from his house
In Rob’s 20 he experienced a chain of bad relationships. If a relationship was good he sabotaged it himself. He met a man that preached about Jesus Christ and he was not yet open to hearing about him. In total survivor mode, Rob made poor choices that included selling drugs and becoming involved in a dangerous and destructive relationship. Rob was working out and at that time was the only positive thing he had done with his time. In the pain of another relationship ending, he accepted the offer to attend a bible study and accepted the Salvation offered through Jesus Christ. A Dark Night After his new found faith he ended up with the girl he had ended the relationship with. In a heated argument, he went downstairs and fell asleep. Rob woke to the Police banging on the door and she told him that she told the police he had raped and beat her. Rob’s emotions became too much to handle and he jumped out of the third story window. On the way down, his foot clipped an awning and changed the direction of his fall. Instead of dying, Rob found himself looking up, unable to move in a tremendous amount of pain. At this moment, Rob asked God why he let him live? His plan had not gone the way he had expected. In excruciating pain, Rob was arrested for rape and put under 24-hour surveillance. The officer told him he was a bad person right before she showed up at the hospital. Conversation With God After she was shown out of the hospital Rob had a conversation with God. He asked what was going to happen? In the moment of conversation, he was given great peace. He heard a voice that told him the charges would be dropped, the bills paid and that he would walk again. Rob dosed off into a dream of playing soccer. He woke up and the light, sounds and pain was all back. The charges were dropped and he was allowed to have guests. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast interview: Here What We Learn:
  • How his Mom responded when she visited
  • How he walked again
  • The forgiveness he found for others
  • Building a relationship with his Mom
  • Receiving a bill for $800K+.
Faith In Action While Rob was healing some Christian brothers from church picked him up and brought him to church back brace and all. He was broken and beaten and kept turning to God. Living with his Mom was not working as she was taking his pain meds and he ended up staying with friends. Rob went for long walks, read his bible and prayed a lot. He knew that God didn’t want him to continue to live off of Disability and despite the immense pain, he continued taking steps to heal For a couple of years, Rob lived out of a garage. He had been a Personal Trainer prior to the accident took a job at a gym for a short time. He was asked to train his bosses roommate and she became his wife. Quitting Drinking Rob’s wife was a big part of his ability to quit drinking. With God’s help and a nine-month battle, Rob quit drinking. Not before making a big mistake. Rob drove under the influence of alcohol and crashed her car. In the moments of difficulty, Rob negotiated with God and asked for his help. He agreed to move with her, marry her and quit drinking. God basically bailed Rob out of the situation and he quit drinking. What is amazing, he had no desire to drink again. They moved out to Colorado Springs and started a family. God opened some amazing doors for Rob and he began doing work that really helped people spiritually and emotionally. Faith and Fitness Rob brought his experience healing from a life of trauma and difficulty and his love of fitness together. He is now able to have deep conversations with people while helping them to strengthen their physical bodies at the same time. His wife and himself are creating a ministry in their garage. It is a place where people can feel safe to share their past and find forgiveness, fellowship and support. Rob can help them to :
  • Get off of drugs
  • Pray
  • Talk about God
  • Experience Fellowship
  • Do Pushups and Prayer
  • Do Jumping Jacks and Jesus
  • Find Faith, family and Fitness.
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Frustrated, Stressed & In Debt to The Abundance Mindset with Nate Ridgeway

Welcome to the Synergy Mindset Podcast, Mindset Monday Edition.  Nate Ridgeway is here to share about the Scarcity Mindset vs. the Abundance Mindset.  We will find out what the Abundance Mindset is and how can we adopt an Abundance Mindset?

Nate is a Husband, Father, Entrepreneur, John Maxwell Certified Coach, Pastors’ Son, the Leader of Life Tribe and also has an amazing Second Chance Story. On his website, he says that he is grateful for his second chance at living life wisely and well.

He grew up, The Son of a Preacher Man, that was also, The Son of a Preacher Man and he was also The Son of a Preacher Man. Being the 4th generation involved in church ministry and it taught him to love and value people and how to build things.

Whether you are building things or peoples lives it is in Nate’s DNA, in his blood.

Not an Abundance Mindset

Nate shares that he was not always living with an abundance mindset and started off his family in debt by putting the hospital bills on his credit card. They took vacations and paid utilities and at one point got to 50K credit card debt on high-interest cards.

He had the wrong mindset about life, got up to 247 lbs, was totally stressed out, hated life and ended up wondering how he ended up overweight, broke, and frustrated. He has massive desires to make a massive impact in the world and he was not making an impact at that time.

Nate was given the name, Life Architect, by a dear friend of his that had a branding firm and put the story in front of his face. He showed him how far he had come and how he was helping people to re-engineer and redesign their lives. This really played to the DNA of his heart.

A Change in Life

When he realized change needed to take place in his own life it began step by step. He experienced frustration while he was trying on his wedding/funeral suit and it just wasn’t buttoning and he punched the mirror in frustration. It as a wake-up moment of the physical state his body was in. The next was when he went to a financial coach and they uncovered his $600.00 a month Starbucks Habit. He tells us that when you are accountable and you really want to move from scarcity to abundance you are willing to take those kinds of, “spankings” from a coach.

His mindset was a scarcity mindset because he had a lack of abundance in his mindset to be honest with himself and know how to use whatever resources were available to him. He was not in abundance because he had money to spend at Starbucks, he was in scarcity because he was using money that he could have put towards his debt so that he could move towards abundance.

Moving toward abundant living is knowing how to use your resources; time, energy, money, a skill, talent or the gifts that God has given you responsibility. 

The Power of a Coach or Mentor

You have to be willing to submit to a coach if it is going to be effective. There are many coaches and areas of coaching and Nate feels that the coaching fit is special. He recommends taking the time to find a coach where the relationship is the right fit, someone that can help you get what you are looking for. Find someone that has done what you want to do or has been where you want to go.

Listen to the whole interview to find out what those steps are and hear the rest of Nate’s Journey. Find out how he developed a Rockstar Abundance in his life and how it has allowed him to make a massive impact in the world. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast: Listen Here

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Cerebral Palsy Warrior with Heather Hancock

Heather was born premature and with Cerebral palsy. She was the first handicapped child mainstreamed into Calgary, Alberta’s public school system and subjected to many years of bullying and abuse. At the age of two, her parents were told that she was to be put into an institution because she would never amount to anything. She is on this show sharing her story because they were very wrong.

She had to overcome the damage that was done and when Heather was only 14 years old she was suicidal and had made a plan.

She tells us God had a plan that was greater for her and that she experienced his love and realized this at an event she attended.

Her dream of becoming a nurse couldn’t be due to the physical pain and limitations that CP caused her and she shares a story that includes multiple mindset shifts coupled with the will to go on despite challenges.

In this inspiring interview, she shares her journey to becoming a Christian Inner Healing Coach. She helps Woman overcome deep, deep wounds by shifting their mindset to come into alignment with God’s mindset.

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2Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,1:2 The Greek word for brothers and sisters (adelphoi) refers here to believers, both men and women, as part of God’s family; also in verses 16 and 19; and in 2:1, 5, 14; 3:10, 12; 4:11; 5:7, 9, 10, 12, 19.whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

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13 For you created my inmost being;
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14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

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Faith and Stroke Recovery with Reverend Ray Rose

Reverend Ray Rose

Reverend Ray suffered a stroke and had a long healing journey. In today’s interview, he answers a couple of questions:

  • How can a small measure of faith help some overcome the challenges that come with having a stroke?
  • What happens when you know the odds are not with you, to be independent again?

Even when he wanted to die, give up and call it quits, he kept going. He believes that there is so much in you that you have to give to somebody else. There is somebody else that needs you. This is the part of the emotional battle that he fought within.

What We Talk About In This Interview

This is Ray’s first time telling his story. With courage and vulnerability, he shares:

  • His experience having a stroke
  • A message from God
  • We talk about his time in the hospital and recovery
  • What it was like when he first came home
  • He shares his journey,  recovery and experience in finding what he is passionate about.
  • We talk about the impact on his family
  • The power of prayer
  • We talk about suicide, both having the will to go on and helping others see the good within themselves.

You can tune into the audio interview on the Podcast: Here

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Devastating Horse Accident to Thriving Business Coach

John Ramstead  

I am blessed to share an inspiring story that touched my soul and filled my heart. John overcame tremendous injury in an accident that he miraculously survived. This is a story not only about becoming Christian but also really connecting and feeling our creators love.

Today he is the co-host of The Eternal Leadership podcast, as well as a successful business coach.

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As a kid, he had a dream to be a fighter pilot and never thought he could achieve it. John went to college on a ROTC scholarship, then Navy Flight school and through a lot of hard work became a F14 pilot. He flew in desert storm, flew combat sorties.

Then he had been given dream orders to go back and instruct at Top Gun, but he had a softball accident and suffered nerve damage to his eye.

No longer able to fly, John was completely unsure about the path of his life. His dreams were taken away and that was the only thing he wanted to do since being a child.

He needed help, direction, and purpose as his life didn’t have any meaning. John was lead to the Gospel in April of 1995 and he became a Christian. It gave him a foundation and a grounding for the rest of his life that was invaluable for him. It opened incredible doors.

A year later his wife became a Christian, he tells us it was an interesting year!

Imagine what it would be like, being given orders to go to Top Gun, flying F14’s and F16’s to selling cell phones door to door, with the planes flying above.

“When you don’t have a purpose in your life you don’t understand who you are, what you want to do and the meaning you want your life to have.”

This was 1995 and he started his own company.

He did three different tech start-up companies, then worked for a fortune 100 company, then to a Wall Street firm, then in 2011, he left to start a new company. Then 5 1/2 month into it, he was involved in an accident that radically changed his life.

The Horse Ride That Changed John’s Life

John was invited by a friend to a non-profit called Family Talk. He was invited to learn more, and perhaps become more involved. He flew himself up, and they gathered at a Ranch in Montana.

Friday, they were going to ride to the back of the Ranch, and John had his horse saddled first. He had a picture taken just before, and he had a big smile on his face, having no idea that in the next five minutes his life was going to change permanently.

John’s horse began to trot, then all of a sudden the horse did a 90-degree turn and bolted and threw him backward. John was holding on with his legs, as hard as he could.  John was able to get himself back up in time to see a steel fence coming up.

John grabbed the reins and pulled left, the horse nearly pulled the reins out of John’s hands. John pulled the horse’s head left again, but the horse pulled his head back and kept going towards the fence.

John was thinking he needed to jump, starting to panic, but would have broken his neck. He didn’t feel the horse would be suicidal and run into the wall. Soon John realized there was no way one of them wasn’t going to get really hurt.

He was a fighter pilot, he flew in combat; low-level missions, 500 mph at 100 feet and never felt this feeling before in his life.

About 20 yards from the fence, it was as if someone hit the pause button and everything slowed down. John recalls thinking, “This is not going to end well.”

The horse bucked so hard he slammed into the fence rump first. He launched John into the top bar of the fence. About a 3″ solid steel beam.

After The Accident

The beam hit John across the face, from his teeth to his left eye.

I can hardly type as I listen to this, let alone imagine what it must have been like to go through.

John lost 7  teeth,  shattered his cheek, crushed his left eye orbit, broke all the bones behind the eye socket; which severed the nerve and he lost his left eye sight. He shattered his forehead, the center of his skull, the base of his skull, his head snapped back from the impact and broke his neck in a couple of places.

He crushed 4 ribs, punctured a lung and tore up his right shoulder pretty good.

An EMT was there and helped right away. John passed out briefly and when he came to he could feel people holding down his head, shoulders, hips and this woman was holding his hand. He heard her say he was going into shock.

The pain he was in was beyond anything he could tolerate.  “It was like being underwater and running out of air when you still have 20 feet to go, that type of fear and panic, but even greater than that.”

His face was cut open, not a pretty sight, he was yelling and moaning and it was hard for the people there to comfort him.

They describe how they thought they watched him pass away, because he suddenly relaxed, and his body sunk into the ground.

The Presence Of God

He felt the presence of God come and completely surround him. It was the most intense and personal unconditional love. It was about Jesus and John Ramstead, one on one, being loved beyond comprehension.

The first thought he had, had been, “I’m not worthy of someone loving me like this.”

He had fallen away from a close relationship with God because of his business career and some of the success he had.

In scripture, they talk about that peace that passeth all understanding.  That feeling was washing over him like waves from the ocean, it was taking away all his pain, and panic and fear and it was like it had never happened.

He basked in this intense love, and as he was laying there God spoke to him.  It was not to his ears, but like a stream of consciousness flowing through his soul.

What God said is  “All things work together for good for those that love the lord. I am going to heal you and use this for all my glory. The Lord giveth the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord.”

John told me he still wonders about that because he knew with total certainty his left eye was blind. There was no reason for him to know that at the time.

He woke up and opened his eyes, and told everyone very calmly that they didn’t need to worry because God was there and he said it was going to be ok. They were a little surprised.

For the next hour he chatted calmly, he asked questions every couple of minutes, about why his teeth were broken and about how the horse was doing.

He waited for an hour for the helicopter to arrive. He remembers looking forward to the ride, It was a beautiful Montana Day. He could only see the blades and blue sky.

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Being in God’s presence has profoundly changed who he is and what he is all about.

He was told by multiple doctors that his accident was not survivable, he should have died.

Surgery

In the last 2 1/2 years he has had 23 surgeries, 2 brain surgeries where they had to take most of his skull off to repair it with titanium plates, his entire sinus cavity was removed and a traumatic brain injury.

A hospital in Denver treats traumatic brain injury, and he spent 18 months there. When he did his testing in the end, he was 100% in everything except for visual processing. This was miraculous because they had only expected he would recover to 50% at most.

Family

The path to John healing was long and treacherous. He battled Meningitis, a fever over 107 degrees, John had post-accident amnesia, brain surgeries, and every time, they told him about the possibility of complications, and that he may not be the same person if he made it through.

His wife was his caregiver, for a year. He has three children and it was a hard time for all of them. All of his friends and family came up, especially for the first week or two all his friends and family would come up.

He tells us his wife prayed to god for some help while waiting for his second surgery. Just after, a pastor from a local church came to visit to see what he could do.

He sat with her as a friend, prayed with her, and waited 4-5 hours until the surgery was over. He came back a few more times. Just having someone there gave her the strength and courage to get through it gracefully.

Financially this made a huge difference in their lives. It challenged their boys’ faith and put them all through a really tough time.

It has been a huge blessing over the years, watching their boys come through this, watching their journey.  He and his wife have a  relationship,  he would never give up.  John no longer works 70- 80 hours a week and has more time with his family.

John is going to try to make as big of a difference, with what time he has left. He doesn’t know if it works this way, however,  he envisions seeing Jesus one day, and seeing his face break out in a smile,  and having him say, “good job buddy, come on in.”

 Community and Friends

The community was amazing. Over 400 people brought meals and thousands reached out.  People offered to take his kids to sports, mow the lawn, fix things around the house and for the 5 weeks he was away in the hospital good friends took his kids, and would not take any money for groceries.

If you’re in a situation like this, reach out and find a relationship, a book, someone who can help you hang on to hope. If you know someone who is going through something like this, reach out and serve them, do something that is inconvenient for you but will mean the world for them.

 Moving On

I asked John how he moved on? He told us that, “Every single day you wake up you have a choice”.

I reached out to mentors, read books, kept putting one foot in front of the other to keep moving forward.

When we have a funeral someday, it is more than just being a great husband, dad, provider, and co-worker. He wants to leave a legacy to be so much bigger than it would have been if he died two years ago.

I asked John if he thinks there is a way one can tap into these things without having a near death experience. He told me absolutely!

Our experiences made us realize that we have this incredible potential we can live up to.  If we make decisions, surround ourselves with people who are doing great things with their life. We can make a choice every day, every single day we wake up we have an opportunity for a second chance.

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If there is something stopping us, an obstacle or a roadblock, there are people out there that will help you, to give you the courage, give you the skills to get past whatever you think is in your way. It is not as big as you think!!

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He went back to work and could not put in the kind of hours he had before. In February of this year, he felt god talk to him again. He said, ” I want you to use this life that I have given you, to pour this life into other leaders, to equip and inspire them to work in my kingdom. ” It was very clear.

He left what he was doing, very advanced business, estate, and tax planning for business owners. He went and got certified as a coach.

He found a lot of people ask, ” how do I really understand my purpose, who I am, what are my values, what are the gifts God has given me and how do I work in those? How do I create a life outside of me that is in complete alignment of who I am inside?

When he helps those individuals, and bring those two into alignment, amazing things happen.

Life has a new colour to it, a joy and a light, it becomes fresh and exciting.  All of us know they can get there but they don’t know how.

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Healing after War in Iraq with Chaplain Moreno

Questions from the war in Iraq

Mike shares his journey of healing after going to Iraq as a Chaplain. He tells us that honor is very important to Marines, you always do the right thing. These are a few questions that he asked:

  • When someone does something that is against their own moral framework what do they do?
  • Does it affect their marriage and relationship with their kids?
  • What happens if they view themselves as horrible people and end up caring a tremendous amount of guilt around with them?

Facing Guilt

Mike tells us that it is critical to get rid of the guilt. We learn ways to cleanse,  remove and lessen guilt on today’s show. Here are a couple of questions he will address.

  • What happens when we want to help someone through these tough situations and it is hard for us to listen to the events that have taken place?
  • How can we listen and how do the experts cope with these traumatic events?

It starts with finding someone to listen to you after you have listened. In this interview, we hear about how a community can help people through really difficult memories. You can listen to the audio on the Podcast: Here 

Today’s show talks about spirituality, the war in Iraq, and shares some topics that may be difficult for some listeners.

Chaplin Moreno shares his experience with us and guides us through some of these tough questions:

  • I’ve taken a life, how does that chance who and what I am?
  • The sticky wicket, Do you believe that God will protect you?
  • What makes someone feel safe?
  • Can spirituality strengthen personal resilience?
  • How does one know who and what god is?
  • What is my purpose here?
  • I did not die, what is the meaning I am going to attach to that.
  • Someone has had a near-death experience, how can you help?
  • How can we be good at listening to someone that has experienced a loss?
  • How can you share your faith, your view in a constructive way?
  • How can you listen to someone whose stories and memories make me feel sad and sick?
  • What is a moral injury?

Mike walks us through many of these questions and his experience serving in Iraq. You can tune in to the Podcast interview: Here 

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Master your Time, Talent and Treasures with Scott Maderer

Episode 75 on The Synergy Mindset Podcast and Community.

Driving a long way down a country road, contemplating sending his car off the road, Scott made a decision in his mind to end his life. He had thought that his wife could pay off the debt with the life insurance payout.

As he was wrestling with his decision, Dave Ramsey came on the radio and he began to hear stories of couples that had become, “debt free”. Each night he drove home, he listened more and more until he had the courage to speak to his wife. The plan never came to fruition.

Have you ever felt that you were at the end of your rope? That all hope was gone and unsure of where to go? Perhaps you are still working a mundane 9-5 job that seems to go nowhere. In this interview with Scott, we hear how his journey unfolded. He and his wife got out of debt, became John Maxwell Certified Coaches, he quit his corporate job and now helps others. He helps people master their time, their talents, and their treasures and if you listen you will learn a little bit about how you can as well.

 

In 2017, Scott and his wife Carrie started Inspired Stewardship as a business to serve Christian men and couples that are struggling to live out their calling.  They work to help align the way you use your time, your talent, and your treasures so that you can identify and live a fully authentic life that allows you to authentically live your calling, serve others, and provide for your family.  As certified Human Behaviour Consultants and members of the John Maxwell Team, they focus on helping you understand yourself, understand others, and through that understanding build the Kingdom. Scott and Carrie through Inspired Stewardship are living out their own calling that started with a call to coaching in 2011 and has slowly grown to a full-time business through one on one coaching, speaking, and workshops.

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Kingdom Mindset with Christian CEO Kelly Baader

Kelly Baader is here to share her inspiring story of how she had to overcome insurmountable odds since her childhood to achieve the success she enjoys today.

She is a wife and Mom, lives in Switzerland with a well-traveled Labrador, a renowned Digital Sales and Marketing Strategist, Certified Business Coach, Mentor to emerging Christian entrepreneurs, Host of Christian CEO podcast and author of a best selling book.

 

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Highlights:

  • How she overcome being told she wouldn’t make it in business.
  • What it was like to be a female CEO when it was mostly a male occupation.
  • When Kelly experienced the presence of God and was asked what she wanted for her birthday present.
  • How to write a letter to God
  • Why we need more people that love God in the top 3% of the business world.
  • Being a Christian in today’s business world.
  • Who are you called to serve, what kind of problem are you solving and what kind of solution will you provide?

 

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