Post Traumatic Growth from Failed Relationships with Katrina Goff

Have you felt the pain of losing someone that you love followed by the frustration of thinking about how difficult starting over would be? Post Traumatic Growth can show up from failed relationships. If you are hurting or keep repeating the same cycle of relationship- single- relationship tune in to this podcast interview with Katrina Goff.

Katrina Goff, CAPP, CRT, is a positive psychology practitioner, and a certified resilience trainer, licensed to facilitate the Bounce Back Better(R) system, a Flourishing Center Program.
The interview is available on the Podcast: Here 

Katrina spent the majority of her career working in Health Care and with the Military. She came across the term, Post Traumatic Growth in a Psychology class she was taking and was able to share it with several service members in active duty over the years. It gave them some hope, and she could help them to see a different side of life other than just Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

She is passionate about helping people have happier and healthier relationships and helping people see there is something else outside of just being stuck in the trauma of a situation, that you can find good in situations and you can have maybe a different life than you anticipated but that it can be even better than you dreamed.

Mindset

It’s all about how we choose to look at things and really being aware of the thoughts that come into our minds and what we do with them.

Sometimes we are getting something out of holding into trauma and are not ready to let it go. The longer we entertain a negative or painful thought the quicker it will pop back into our head. We have automatic thoughts and we have the power to take control over it, we do not have to entertain them.

We may not have had control over the initial situation but what we think and feel about it is definitely in our control.

PTSD

We often think of war, a serious illness, death of a loved one, rape or anything traumatic but when we think about a failed relationship that can be one of the most traumatic events that ever happen to us in our life.

We have invested our time, our heart, our mind into believing we are going to have that relationship forever. Perhaps that person is your best friend and you never imagined not having them in your life. Due to some circumstances regardless of fault, it can be debilitating.

We can want to lay in bed and our thoughts can focus on the negative like how our life will never be the same and that we won’t have it back again. These thoughts don’t lead us forward.

Post Traumatic Growth (PTG)

When we can see it and know how it shows up we can build more of it into our lives. One way that it shows up for Katrina is in Spirituality. Knowing she has a Heavenly Father that loves her and being part of something bigger than herself is very important to her. She knew when she was hurting that she was never alone.

She tells us that when our heart feels it is breaking we tend to want to isolate ourselves and we feel we are the only person that ever felt that way but we are not alone, everyone feels this way and have had a heartbreaking experience.

Meaning – I can make an understanding of what happened and expect that something is going to be better in the future because of it.

We are meaning-making creatures and want to figure out what we learned so we can share it with others. PTG comes from asking questions such as, What was my part in that breakup, what did I miss? How can I help other people?  It is hard to do but if we don’t get to the heart of this, we can end up in that repeating cycle of relationship, single and heartbreak or we never believe we can have it.

Purpose – Future focuses, What am I going to do with that info that came from meaning?

What gifts, skills, abilities, and talents have I come across that can help other people?

Katrina’s Journey

Before her Marriage Fitness Training had a name she knew she was going to find PTG from her experience. She had a failed marriage followed by relationships that didn’t end well and she came to a point in her life that she would NOT settle. She said we can all come to a point that we see we are good enough, we will not accept less than what meets our needs.

She offers some words of wisdom, if you are at that point of failed relationships, Stop!!! Don’t jump into a relationship until you can clearly define in your heart and mind, What do you need, what do you desire and how can you clearly articulate that?

She shares, with vulnerability, that this comes from a place of been there done that. The audio is available and you can hear all the details by listening on the player above or you can find us on Apple music and Stitcher Radio, Synergy Mindset Coaching Podcast.

Links

Katrina is the creator of “Marriage Fitness Training: What’s STRONG with your Marriage” and “Building Post Traumatic Growth”, and many more. Katrina’s mission statement, simply put, is to help people discover their goals, develop their strengths, and determine the path to their success. She is passionate about the science of well-being and resilience. Katrina is the co-owner of Goff Impact Consulting with the love of her life and husband Jay Goff also a John Maxwell speaker, trainer, coach. Katrina is passionate about helping people have healthier and happier relationships. She uses a strengths-based approach and teaches others to first answer the question “what’s right with me, what’s right with others?”

Canada’s First Death Coach with Stephen Garrett

What Can We Learn From A Death Coach?

Stephen Garrett

Could you imagine finding out that someone you love died suddenly and unexpectedly? Stephen lost his sister and realized that everything he was striving for “wasn’t really worth it”. He gave up his six-figure income, BMW’s and suits to become a social worker.

His first year as a social worker he made $12,000 and he had made that each month as a Stock Broker. He almost went back when times were difficult, but he paid more attention to his heart and stuck with it.

Through the years he found his calling and became a Death Coach or The Death Shaman. He helps people plan for death, have conversations about it, heal and find life. You can listen to the whole interview: Here 

 Questions I ask Stephen and Important Points

  • What is a Death Coach?
  • Why are people afraid of fear?
  • Why will a coach and surrounding yourself with support make it easier to start over with a new lifestyle?
  • Why did you become a coach?
  • What separates us from Vancouver’s Downtown East Side sex trade workers, drug attics and homeless?
  • How he learned to embrace death.
  • How to be with someone who is dying.
  • What it is like to live with grief.
  • What are healthy ways to be with grief?
  • Does everyone going through grief change their life’s?
  • How to help someone who has lost a loved one.

Links And Contact Information

Healing After Divorce with Stacy Curtis

Could you imagine finding out that the charming man you married was cheating on you? Perhaps you can and it has happened to you, you know the pain and hurt that comes.

Our guest today has lived through all of this and she shares the true, raw story with us here. She found writing and was able to share her story while healing herself.

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Stacy logged onto her computer to find out that her husband was advertising himself online for sex. She managed to hide it from her children and avoid confrontation with her husband at the time.

She was quick to seek legal help but wasn’t able to get the computer before her husband took it and hid the truth. After a terrible confrontation, he threatened and scared Stacey and did everything he could to take her down.

This is a story that needs to be heard and you can find it on the Synergy Mindset Coaching Podcast: Here. 

Favorite Scripture:

Romans 12:12 New International Version (NIV)

12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

Contacts and Links

Stacy Curtis
Chief Storyteller, WriteOfYourLife.com

Email: stacy@writeofyourlife.com
Website: http://www.writeofyourlife.com/
Become a patron: https://www.patreon.com/writeofyourlife

Helping Moms Ditch the Stress and Find Joy with Marina Pearson

Marina Pearson is a mother, bestselling author, international TEDx speaker, investor and Joy Retreat Facilitator. Most of all she is a human Be-ing. She lives her life working on projects that light her up and, in the process, assists others to also light up their lives.


Over 14 years’ experience in the transformation industry has culminated in Marina helping mums to ditch the stress at her Joy Retreats she hosts from her home in Javea, Spain.
As host of the Joy of Being podcast, Marina interviews transformation professionals, business owners and creatives on how to live a life we can truly enjoy.
Marina’s work has been featured on ITV’s This Morning, Marie Claire, Spirit & Destiny, The Guardian, and the Daily Mail.
If you are interested in finding out where your joy gaps are and what you can do about them, visit: www.MarinaPearson.com/scorecard.
You can also join Marina on the Joy of Being podcast at www.MarinaPearson.com/podcast.

Links:

  • https://twitter.com/marinapearson
  • https://www.instagram.com/marinapearson/
  • Listen to the podcast: here 

Wyred to Win with James Newcomb

“This too shall pass” is a powerful quote we hear when going through a storm in life. Our guest today is in the middle of one and instead of postponing the interview, he shared with us from a place of vulnerability and truth. What do you do when you feel like a failure? How do you move forward?

James shares his walk through these questions and the balance between waiting and taking action. We will dive deep into the mindset of overcoming the paralyzing effects of feeling like a  failure and how to move forward to embrace a mindset that we are Wyred to win?

Some topics that we will cover are:

Divorce, starting a podcast, wisdom form interviewing many musicians and successful artists and more. Check out the entire interview above or on your favorite podcast app.

James Newcomb is a father, musician, podcaster, and entrepreneur.

Jame’s Morning Routine

  1. Turns on the light and burner to make his Kion coffee
  2. Counts to 300 while waiting for the water to boil
  3. Makes coffee in a french press and opens up the Bible
  4. Reads bible gateway on the app on his phone. He reads the featured scripture and the whole chapter. He then reads the Tora followed by the Proverb.
  5. He reads from a success type book
  6. Walks on the beach when the sun is out or exercises
  7. By 8:00 he is ready to go and gives himself the first and best hour of the day to devote to his business
  8. Edits and produces podcasts for most to the day
  9. Practices
  10.  When his son is home he exercises indoors and sometimes with his son sitting on his back as a weight as he does pushups. They plank together.

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