How To Answer Why Did This Happen To Me? with Aaron Keith Hawkins

Aaron was a Police Chief, Husband and Father when he experienced a close call with death. After realizing he could have suffered a heart attack, mini-stroke or aneurism he experienced a change in his life. He shares his journey through more than a decade of personal growth and a shift from surviving to now living an intentional life that is thriving.

Throughout his career, he was often asked, “Why did this happen to me”?  He shares his experience answering this for himself as well as how he helped others navigate through this process to understanding. Listen: Here

 

 

 

A Trip To The Hospital

Aaron’s life direction was changed in one night when he woke up in pain. He had realized in about 10 seconds that he couldn’t walk it off and had a light bulb moment in the realization that his family may possibly find him on the floor in the morning.

He asked his wife to call 911 just before collapsing to the floor. At the moment he was checking out, he experienced a wave of regret as if someone slapped him across the head and told him to look at all the missed opportunities he had experienced. Aaron made a promise to God that if he let him live, he would change.

After a short stay in the hospital, Aaron was allowed to go home. They sent him for testing for a couple of weeks and he did receive a full recovery in his health. In the end, he was not given a certain diagnosis although they suspected he experienced a mini-stroke.

Transformation

He felt guilty when he came to the realization that he had been coasting through life instead of thriving through it. Aaron found it difficult to shake off the regret he felt. He didn’t know what he needed to do differently and that was the beginning of a decade long journey through personal development. He had felt that something changed and knew he needed to take a step in a different direction. The biggest changes he made were

  • Moving from living life to fit into living life to impact others and for his loved ones
  • Going back to school and finishing his Graduate Degree in leadership
  • Reading Tony Robbins, Unleash the Power Within
  • Began reading books in Personal Development, Human Performance and Motivational Development.

“When I changed the way I started showing up in the world it really changed the way I felt about myself, the level of gratitude that I had for the people around me and my perspective about what I was influencing in my life.”

 The more he learned about the world of Personal Development, Motivational Theory and Human Needs Theory, the more he learned it and applied the changes relationships evolved in

  • Career
  • The relationship with his wife
  • His relationship with his daughter
  • Friends.

Being in Law Enforcement allowed Aaron to use everything he was learning every day. It increased the success he had helping others. His position allowed him to deal with people on what could have been their worst day ever.

Light Bulb Moment

One day Aaron’s Wife asked him what he loved about his job. He realized that he loved teaching. He loved getting someone from point A to point Z. It was a lightbulb moment that he needed to teach others from his learning. He took the following steps

  • Picked up Brendan Burchard’s book
  • Built a website
  • Recorded a Podcast episode
  • Stepped out of his comfort zone, terrified for each first
  • Coached someone
  • Began doing Social Media on his own

Using what he went through, he encourages his clients to share something that scares them and tells them to go do it.

Aaron knew his Law Enforcement career was coming to an end and began to really grow his Social Media, website and podcast. Today he helps people get clients using LinkedIn and now has somewhere around 15k followers.

Hitting The Wall

If you have had something happen in your life that has left you feeling like you hit a wall Aaron shares some advice. Choose why you think it happened. He believes that we get to assign the reason and meaning to what has happened and no one can tell us it is right or wrong. If you have hit a wall

  • Decide what the meaning is
  • Decide why it happened.
  • Don’t let anyone tell you if it is right or wrong
  • Make it a good reason.

The Fear of Public Speaking

Aaron has a physical reaction each time he presents a key-note. Just like riding a roller coaster, there is a fine line between fear and exhilaration. He feels safer working on a Swat team than standing on a stage. He tells us he is never safer than when he is with his team.

Despite his workplace success he still experiences the physical fear when he begins speaking including, a racing heart and sweaty hands.

Favourite Book:

Man’s Search for Meaning by Dr. Victor Frankyl

Favourite Podcast:

The Brendon Show by Brendon Burchard

Aaron’s Bio:

“Aaron Keith Hawkins is the inspirational author of Million Dollar Influence, a leadership keynote speaker, podcast host, LinkedIn sales trainer, and influence expert. He thrives on helping others improve their business and personal lives by mastering the skill of authentic influence, personal leadership, and value-based decision making.

Aaron completed his graduate studies at the University of Oklahoma where he majored in Administrative Leadership with a focus on Professional Coaching. He’s also honoured to be a rare alumnus of the invitation-only FBI National Academy in Quantico, Virginia. In addition to being an entrepreneur, Aaron spent over 2 decades as a public servant, serving as a Police Captain in his New Jersey community. He and his wife of 23 years currently live in New Jersey with their 13 year old daughter.”

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Vision with Geoff Hughes

Life is full of twists and turns and ups and downs. For our guest today, there has been no exception. He shares the story of his life; from being raised by a Single-Mother on Welfare to becoming an unfulfilled millionaire to his current life that is filled with a successful business and family.

He tells us how he bought his Porche 911, the car he had always dreamed of. However, having a home and becoming a Millionaire was not fulfilling. Geoff shares his journey through the realization that the vision he had created for his life didn’t include happiness.

Through this journey, he shares how he was able to create a deep and meaningful vision for his life and see it come to fruition.

Topics Discussed:

  • How to create a deep vision for your life
  • Changing your sub-conscience mind
  • Finding success with meaning in your life

In this interview with Jeff you will find out how he created the life of his dreams and some tips on how you can too. You can listen to the whole Podcast interview: Here 

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Healthy Mind and Hormones with Dr. Cobi

Woman are like the thermostat of the home, there is a ripple into their families, jobs and everything they do if they are not well. This week on Mindset Monday is our first Practitioner interview with Dr. Cobi from Essential Health Natural Wellness Clinic.

We all know it is important to have a healthy body but I ask her why is it important to have a healthy mind?

Dr. Cobi tells us that it doesn’t really matter how healthy your physical body is if your mind is not. If you are struggling with depression or anxiety you may not answer you are doing alright. If you have a really healthy mindset and are struggling with physical symptoms, you can sort of overlook them if your mindset is healthy.

How do you help woman achieve optimal health?

Dr. Cobi’s specialty is Hormonal Health. She found that the underlying cause of many of the woman she would see was because of a hormone issue. Upon realizing this Dr. Cobi returned to school to earn her Ph.D. in Endocrine Function, (Basically Hormone Issues) She found herself falling more and more in love with hormones as she witnessed the impact it had on her patients.

She tells us that Woman’s hormones shift throughout the month and depending on the sensitivity during these shifts, it can equal a lot of issues. When a woman comes in and is struggling with fatigue, mood swings, menstrual issues, weight gain or other symptoms the first thing she helps them with is to recognize why they are feeling that way and discover the underlying cause. She helps them to discover it through comprehensive hormone testing, kind of the, “Hallmark foundation”, of her practice.

You could be feeling anxiety that could be coming from several different hormone issues, that is why is very important to find out the cause of the symptoms before treating them.

She uses lifestyle changes first such as asking questions like, how did you get here in the first place? If it is stress, she will help her to make lifestyle changes. She uses specialized natural hormone therapies, natural herbal medicine remedies supplements and detox.

How did Dr. Cobi find her path?

Growing up, her Mom was always interested in natural health and her Grandpa was a herbalist so she got a bit of exposure from him. Dr. Cobi knew she was going to be a doctor or pharmacist from a young age.

While he was in school her Mother developed a rare blood condition and was in the hospital for a year. She had to leave school and witnessed her mother go from being told that she would not live a healthy productive life to thriving. She tapped into her belief of natural medicine and although conventional medicine saved her, Natural Medicine brought her back to fully living.

After this experience, she switched her path into Natural Medicine Healing.

Q. What is something that you find you are often repeating to your clients?

A. That when you come to Dr. Cobi, you won’t be just taking a couple of pills and going home. She makes a reference to a marriage, both people have to work at it.

Q. What can a first-time client do to best prepare for a first appointment.

A. She finds most people have been down the path for a while and are ready for some changes or a shift in a different direction. She hopes they are open to making some changes in the foods they eat, the lifestyle they are living and this question, how do I treat the cause so I don’t have to keep treating the symptoms? This is about 50% of the work she tells us.

Q. Is there anything you would like to share?

A. Her passion is to help people live their best life. She is on the team of the patient no matter what that looks like. It could be conventional medicine, natural medicine, coaching…. Whatever that looks like that is what you will get.

Dr. Cobi has offered you two free gifts.

The first is a 7-day hormone reset. https://programs.drcobi.com/7-day

 free web class on Optimizing Health and Hormones. https://programs.drcobi.com/webclass-2

The interview is available on the Podcast: Here 

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International Best Selling Author of:

Author of The Ultimate Gluten and Dairy Free Cookbook

Author of The Ultimate Candida Guide and Cookbook

Author of The Ultimate Hormone Balancing Guidebook

Author of The Ultimate Metabolic Plan Uncovering and Conquering the Roadblocks to Weight Loss

About Dr. Cobi

Dr. Cobi Slater is a Board-Certified Doctor of Natural Medicine, Registered Herbal Therapist, Registered Nutritionist and she also holds a Ph.D. in Natural Health Sciences. Dr. Cobi is the founder of Essential Health Natural Wellness Clinic located in Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada.

Dr. Cobi is extremely passionate about helping others heal naturally as well as empowering patients to live a life of optimal health. Dr. Cobi is a regular guest on many international radio and TV health shows. She also contributes to numerous publications as a health expert and is the International Best-Selling Author of 5 health books including The Ultimate Candida Guide and Cookbook, The Ultimate Hormone Balancing Guidebook, The Ultimate Metabolic Plan, The Ultimate Gluten and Dairy Free Cookbook and Refresh, Revive, Restore 10-Day Detox.

Dr Cobi has helped thousands of patients regain their health through lifestyle changes resulting in a freedom to enjoy life like never before!

Second Chance Story with Rachel Barber

When Rachel first found out she had Mitochondrial Dysfunction and experienced her body shutting down she had nearly lost all hope. Severe fatigue and muscle pain had kept her unable to live the life she desired and she took a big risk to find the doctor that kicked off her healing journey. 

She took her life into her own hands and went on a journey to achieve the life of her dreams.

Second Chance Story

Rachel’s Second Chance Story began seven years ago when she began to experience pains and aches in her body.  She ended up being limited to only seven foods as they were causing her excruciating pain in her entire body. She was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Small Intestine Bacteria Overgrowth. Rachel saw several doctors without any success towards healing. She made the decision to take a big leap in faith and invested everything she had to go see a doctor in California.

Turn Around Point

The doctor in California introduced her to a program that helps retrain your brain. Rachel committed to it was so invested in the training she did it on her wedding night and honeymoon. For 6 months she did it every day and found incredible results.

Rachel changed her diet and it calmed her inflammation and cleared her brain fog so she could focus on the program. She started supplementation months through the journey when her body began to accept them.

Every Day Is A Second Chance to: Get clear on what your purpose on this earth is and follow it.

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Achieving Health Naturally with Ashley James

Ashley knows what it is like to feel like life is dark, hope is something for others, health is a dream and it is hard. At her worst point, she had Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), type two diabetes, chronic fatigue, brain fatigue and a list of health issues holding her back from living the life of her dreams.

Today she is thriving, has overcome all of her health challenges and is helping others to create a life of thriving through her podcast, coaching and by sharing her personal journey.

The Foundation of Health

  1. Sleep -We should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep you can listen to her full interview on sleep hygiene
  1. Moving your body -Get outside, hug a tree, breathe in the fresh air and move your body
  1. Eat Vegetables -Aim for two cups per meal or 6-8 cups per day
  1. Drink Water -Aim for 1/3 of your body weight plus extra for your vices such as sugar and sitting all day.
  1. Supplements

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Every Day is A Second Chance to gain new learnings, learn something new, learn from others, your own experience, the past, the painful things. You can listen to the interview on the Podcast: Here

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Life Happens, Live It! With Jake French

In the blink of an eye, Jake’s life changed course and he ended up being paralyzed from the chin down. In just a few short days, he made the decision to choose to adopt the motto Life Happens, Live it! It took some time for him to live that motto to its fullest and he shares his journey with us here.

I want to thank Joel from Relaunch for introducing me to Jake.  What really inspired me to share Jake’s story was listening to the podcast Mere Mortals Unite, with Julie Ann Sullivan.

Jake tells us that people can see his wheelchair so they know exactly what he is dealing with, but other people have some kind of wheelchair that we just can’t see.

He is a University of Idaho graduate and a huge fan of anything outdoors.

Despite the difficulties he has encountered in his life, he is able to make others smile and turn things away from a victim mindset into a being the leader and speaker that he is today.

His Second Chance Story

Jake was on top of the world and, celebrating receiving his degree, to work in his dream job in forestry. He had been drinking and celebrating when he ran into his old childhood best friend. A freak accident took place between when his friend took him down in a headlock, and Jake couldn’t brace his fall landing head first in the pavement. He later found out he became a C6 Quadriplegic that evening. Sharing his story, we will find out how he was able to find happiness in a different way that he had planned the day he had graduated.

The Turn Around Point

When he was in the therapy room he was surrounded by people who were really hurting. He witnessed another patient whom’s way of looking at her situation changed his whole perspective. This is when he began to look around and realize that he was not the worst off in the world. He committed to healing as victoriously as he was able to.

You can listen to the whole interview to hear all the details of Jake’s experience.

A Closer Look

 What about you changed the most from this experience?

Jake was no longer able to do many of the things he once could. He tells us how his Mom was amazing and taught him to never give up. With his perseverance and courage, he learned how to do many things again including driving.

What is one piece of guidance you would like to share with us?

He tells us a hilarious story about how someone brought him a hot pink wheelchair and his friends had a good laugh and called it ManGenta. He asks what has happened in your life that you can turn into you own ManGenta situation and how can you find the funny in the situation?

What is one resource you couldn’t have made it without?

Never Give Up! Success in Life Is an Attitude Paperback – 2005.                                                                                             by Ron Heagy (Author),‎ Donita Dyer (Author) https://www.amazon.com/Never-Give-Success-Life-Attitude/dp/0975417207

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Arthritis Under 30 with Jacob McCrae

Jacob McCrae was diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis (Rheumatoid) in his 20’s, mind blowing right? He shares the difficulties he faced and the amazing journey he went on to lose over 90 lbs, find exercises that were doable with Arthritis and then he went on to help others.

Getting to know him

Jacob lives in Richmond and works for a company helping reduce food waste. On his spare time, he works on a vlog and blog to share his story about how Arthritis has affected his life.
He was a full-time student working on his computer science degree. He had a bad fall and hurt his shoulder. He wasn’t able to use his arm to write and began writing with his left arm. It was April 2013 and slowly his body began to hurt. His left arm was soar to write with and it progressed to feeling as if he had aches and pains.
When he turned 30 in 2017, he decided to make a change and has lost about 90lbs so far. While working out he had to find modifications for exercises, as well as learn to push through the chronic pain from arthritis in the joints of his fingers, hands, wrists, hips, knees, ankles and toes.
He was so surprised that he could have Arthritis at a young age and did some research on google. Soon he realized that children can have Arthritis and he began to ask the question, how do they get on with their lives, the pain is so great?
Jacob was going through the stages of coming to accept such a difficult diagnosis and was angry. He was angry and blamed himself, and sometimes still doesn’t accept it. Scientists don’t even understand why we get it as far as he knows, he invited you to educate him if you know more!

Asking for Help

Jacob accepted his wife’s help on the odd occasion yet was very independent. He began to feel gratitude for simple abilities such as putting on socks, zipping zippers and buttoning buttons.

Change

Change came and it started with a decision. He decided that once he turned 30 he was going to become healthy. Jacob purchased a plan, Danny Gets Fit. He binge listened to Rob Dial and improved his mindset. Improvements took place and then he fell back temporarily into a dark place.
This is where he realized that if he listened to a good podcast at least once a week he was good. Mindset is really important, a quote from Rob, “You can not solve a problem with the mind that created it.”
Jacob began the Keto diet and found that it made him feel much better. He tells us he loves it, and I wanted to remind you to check with your doctor to ensure it is safe for you to try.
His mindset was better, he knew he deserved better and he left his job. Today he works remotely for a company that is able to support his needs to have good self-care when his Arthritis flares up.
As you can see Jacob really turned his life around despite the difficulties he faced. He shares his story to inspire you and invites you to reach out to him. You can hear the entire interview here or on his youtube channel below. You can listen to the whole interview: Here 

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Overcoming Leukaemia During Pregnancy with Jan Pratico

Jan’s  Second Chance Story

Imagine finding out you have Leukaemia when you are still under 30, not only with a three-year-old but while pregnant. The fear, the worry, the what iffs’ yet Jan shares a story that is positive, uplifting and offers hope and inspiration to realize that Cancer is the beginning and not the end. You can listen to the Podcast interview: Here 

Her Second Chance Story

Jan found out she had Leukaemia while she was pregnant and was more concerned about her son than her own health. She went to the doctors’ office for a test for Rubella and the doctor called her the next day and told her they needed to see her right away.

She went to the doctor worried that he would tell her she had a miscarriage because she had one eight months prior. He came in looking like he had lost his best friend, and with tears in his eyes told her they thought she had Leukaemia.

Jan didn’t know what it was and had thought that they were telling her that her baby had Leukaemia. As she began to realize what it meant, she asked him if he was telling her she was going to die and his answer was, “not necessarily”!

This was not very comforting to her. He checked out the baby and told her it was healthy. At this time, there were no cell phones so she went to find a payphone and called her husband. She told him that she had good news and bad news, the good being the baby was fine and the bad,  she may have Leukaemia.

Can you imagine how long that weekend must have been, waiting to see the specialist?

She took the weekend off and went home. Although she tried to act as normal as possible, her thoughts went to what iff’s and she decided she was going to make it through.

She went to the doctor and then the specialist a couple of days later. He confirmed that she had Leukaemia and very coldly, went over her options. He felt the odds were against her and recommended she have an abortion and gave her two weeks to make a decision.

Jan was a strong and courageous young woman and stuck with her belief that she would give birth to a healthy baby. Although the doctor didn’t give her any hope or encouragement she found a way to find it herself. He did a bone marrow aspiration without pain medicine due to the pregnancy. He had told her there was no possibility of having a bone marrow transplant and would need extensive chemotherapy.

She came back two weeks later and he looked at her chart with a grim look on his face and told her she had the terrible, horrible type of Leukaemia. She was 1,000 away from having Acute Leukaemia. He asked her again if she decided about having the baby and she told him she was keeping the baby.

The specialist had a connection to a doctor at Vancouver General Hospital that was a woman and also pregnant that may be able to help her. God is good!

She went home that day and although she was not a religious person, she went on her hands and knees and prayed to God. She tells us she didn’t believe before this but believes that  “There are no Atheists in a foxhole”.  She prayed to God on her knees and said that if there is a God please help her and she promised to help other people with Cancer.

God listened to her and n the way to the doctor she saw a semi truck with a message on the sign that said Cancer can be beaten and she thought, oh my God, that is my sign.

The Turn Around Point

The doctor at Vancouver General Hospital worked with her and she also saw an Oncologist. Her white blood cell count went down every three weeks. Without any treatment, she kept getting better and the Oncologist couldn’t believe it. Jan ended up with diabetes during her pregnancy and her doctor was so worried, Jan kept the mentality she was going to make it and make it she did! Her son was born 7 lbs 8 oz, a perfectly healthy baby boy!! Her white blood cell count had gone down to 15, 000 and she had been positive that they had made a mistake. Jan was positive that everything was ok so when they told her they had to work on her Cancer she felt as if she was kicked by a horse.

Mindset

She looked at another woman in the hospital that had a baby that was born premature and didn’t know if it would make it. Through tears, she made the decision that she would not feel sorry for herself and that was the last time she did.

Jan began treatment for her Cancer and defied the odds. The first treatment was over in only 5 1/2 weeks as opposed to the 8 weeks that they predicted. Two weeks later she had to go back for treatment for Graft-vs-host disease and the doctor told her to count on two weeks. Jan was out in one week to the day!

She had one more week to spend in the hospital and has not been back since.

One year later Jan kept her promise to God and seen 11 patients. Only one passed away and it was not actually from Cancer.

Jan shared the skills of mental imagery, positive thinking and others heard of her. She was approached by others and asked to help and she witnessed others going into remission because of the skill set they embraced.

A Closer Look

What about you changed the most?

Jan is writing a book called, The Gift Called Cancer. She quit worrying about stupid trivial things and she is grateful for each day that she is alive. She believed in God now and that there is a purpose for her life now. She doesn’t take anything for granted now.

What wisdom have you gained?

  • There is something higher than myself
  • Life is short and you got to make the best of it
  • Positivity
  • Not to care if people don’t like you
  • Family and Friends are what matters most

WHAT IS ONE PERSONAL HABIT THAT CONTRIBUTED TO YOUR OVERCOMING THIS?

  • Positive imagery
  • Positive thinking
  • Faith and Truly Believing

One Resources That Helped You Out

There were not any, her Dad did tell her the story of the man walking down the street feeling sorry for himself because he didn’t have any shoes until he saw the man who didn’t have any feet.

What is one thing you are most passionate about today?

  • Decorating her home
  • Her family

Every day is a second chance to talk to people, give them hope, Cancer is just a word ….. if you have gone through it you have gotten a gift and you can really appreciate life.

The book she is writing is, A Gift Called Cancer and you can contact her if you need an uplifting, someone to give you hope and inspiration. You can reach her through her son at AP Photography in the link just below.

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