Heal From The Ground Up with Michael Hsu

Many of us grow up feeling invisible or not good enough. Some of us are aware of it and others have yet to discover it. If we are faced with trauma or have parents that faced difficulties in coping in life, we may incorporate that in a negative way within ourselves.

If someone is feeling anxious, angry, sad or depressed can you intuitively feel and sense it? Today we talk about what it is like to be a highly sensitive person.

You may have a gift of high sensitivity. About 1/5 people are blessed with this gift. If they are not aware of this gift it can be used against them. Michael teaches them how to use this gift in a positive way.

Michael specializes in helping people heal anger, anxiety and depression from the ground up. He helps them get to the root of the problem and works with people that are highly sensitive.

What you will learn about from this interview

  • How to stop feeling responsible for others
  • Ways to identify when you are feeling someone else’s emotions vs. your own
  • How to honour what you need
  • How to speak up
  • Quit worrying about making others angry
  • How to know your true self
  • Speaking your needs respectfully
  • How to create an identity

His Journey

  • Michael shares his personal story of how his parent’s problems affected him in his adult life. His Mother experienced panic attacks and his father carried tension, (anger and emotional suppression).

 

Intergenerational Trauma

What happens when we take on the belief that we are not enough from others? We learn about how the hurt and trauma of our ancestors affect our daily lives. It is often at a subconscious level and Michael shares about how to discover how it affects you and what to do about it.

P.E.W.F Process

P.E.W.F is a healing model you can use anytime in your life. You can pick up his book to learn more: Here

P-    Problem that brings up the emotion

E –    Identify the Emotion

W – Worst case scenario

F –   Feeling about self

Two of the most common negative feelings about self are:

  • Failure
  • Non-existence

Michael has worked hard to consciously connect and understand what his parents were feeling. He was able to find his true identity and now helps others to free themselves from the ties of the past.

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Michael’s Bio

In 2010, Michael Hsu started his private practice called Heal from the Ground Up, which targets the root of emotional, mental, and physical well-being so we can see life-lasting and transformative changes. As a professional life coach, holistic health practitioner and global love activist, he facilitates people in the process of unlocking their emotional power, heal their body from the ground up and shine their light onto the world. As such, everything he shares with you in his books comes from his own healing and transformation, which began with cultivating his emotional power. Ultimately, this gift that healed and empowered him emotionally, is the very gift he shares with you through his writing.

 

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Something to Live for with Rob Decker

How do you free yourself from the struggles and pains that started in the generations before you were born? What happens when a parent is not equipped with everything they need to parent well, and they are not able to learn the skills necessary? Our guest today shares his story of a difficult and dark start to life, followed by struggle nearly ending with suicide. He takes us on his journey where he found God, hope and healing. We will hear how he found forgiveness, love and freed himself from the chains of addiction and anger. Today Rob shares: How to Rebuild Your Life After Trying To Take It & Find Hope And Healing In Jesus.
Rob Decker: Husband, Father, Personal Fitness Trainer, Health Coach, Best Selling Author, Speaker. Rob has a beautiful wife that he has been married to for 5 years and a son with a baby on the way. He is sharing a difficult testimony to give others hope. Fitness and faith are a cornerstone for him today. Rob’s Testimony starts with his Mom. She had a difficult childhood that included: rape, abuse and neglect. She was thrown from foster home to foster home and was encouraged to have an abortion when she became pregnant with Rob. Being against abortion, she married the man that Rob knew as his Dad. Rob found out a little later that this man was not his Dad and was not allowed to use his last name. This created separation, strife and division between Rob and his sister. This man, referred to as his father, was an x military fighter in the military and his parenting style conflicted with his Mom’s. Rob witnessed a lot of violence, drug use and darkness. By the time he was a teenager, his Dad had left his Mom and everyone he loved was on Meth. This is an inspiring story and you won’t want to miss all of the details, you can listen on the Podcast: Here At the young age of 14 or 15 Rob began his journey of using and drinking. He experienced:
  • Being in a dozen fights
  • Having a shotgun pulled on him
  • Getting very verbal with people
  • Being evicted from his house
In Rob’s 20 he experienced a chain of bad relationships. If a relationship was good he sabotaged it himself. He met a man that preached about Jesus Christ and he was not yet open to hearing about him. In total survivor mode, Rob made poor choices that included selling drugs and becoming involved in a dangerous and destructive relationship. Rob was working out and at that time was the only positive thing he had done with his time. In the pain of another relationship ending, he accepted the offer to attend a bible study and accepted the Salvation offered through Jesus Christ. A Dark Night After his new found faith he ended up with the girl he had ended the relationship with. In a heated argument, he went downstairs and fell asleep. Rob woke to the Police banging on the door and she told him that she told the police he had raped and beat her. Rob’s emotions became too much to handle and he jumped out of the third story window. On the way down, his foot clipped an awning and changed the direction of his fall. Instead of dying, Rob found himself looking up, unable to move in a tremendous amount of pain. At this moment, Rob asked God why he let him live? His plan had not gone the way he had expected. In excruciating pain, Rob was arrested for rape and put under 24-hour surveillance. The officer told him he was a bad person right before she showed up at the hospital. Conversation With God After she was shown out of the hospital Rob had a conversation with God. He asked what was going to happen? In the moment of conversation, he was given great peace. He heard a voice that told him the charges would be dropped, the bills paid and that he would walk again. Rob dosed off into a dream of playing soccer. He woke up and the light, sounds and pain was all back. The charges were dropped and he was allowed to have guests. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast interview: Here What We Learn:
  • How his Mom responded when she visited
  • How he walked again
  • The forgiveness he found for others
  • Building a relationship with his Mom
  • Receiving a bill for $800K+.
Faith In Action While Rob was healing some Christian brothers from church picked him up and brought him to church back brace and all. He was broken and beaten and kept turning to God. Living with his Mom was not working as she was taking his pain meds and he ended up staying with friends. Rob went for long walks, read his bible and prayed a lot. He knew that God didn’t want him to continue to live off of Disability and despite the immense pain, he continued taking steps to heal For a couple of years, Rob lived out of a garage. He had been a Personal Trainer prior to the accident took a job at a gym for a short time. He was asked to train his bosses roommate and she became his wife. Quitting Drinking Rob’s wife was a big part of his ability to quit drinking. With God’s help and a nine-month battle, Rob quit drinking. Not before making a big mistake. Rob drove under the influence of alcohol and crashed her car. In the moments of difficulty, Rob negotiated with God and asked for his help. He agreed to move with her, marry her and quit drinking. God basically bailed Rob out of the situation and he quit drinking. What is amazing, he had no desire to drink again. They moved out to Colorado Springs and started a family. God opened some amazing doors for Rob and he began doing work that really helped people spiritually and emotionally. Faith and Fitness Rob brought his experience healing from a life of trauma and difficulty and his love of fitness together. He is now able to have deep conversations with people while helping them to strengthen their physical bodies at the same time. His wife and himself are creating a ministry in their garage. It is a place where people can feel safe to share their past and find forgiveness, fellowship and support. Rob can help them to :
  • Get off of drugs
  • Pray
  • Talk about God
  • Experience Fellowship
  • Do Pushups and Prayer
  • Do Jumping Jacks and Jesus
  • Find Faith, family and Fitness.
The whole interview is available for you to listen to 24/7
https://anchor.fm/synergymindsetcoaching/episodes/Something-To-Live-For-With-Rob-Decker-e45fo1
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Finding Meaning with John Graham

Have you ever felt like something was missing deep within you? Many people try to fill that void with money, fame, drugs, and alcohol. John began life as an adventurer. He took on climbing mountains that have never again been climbed, was active in wars, revolutions and many thrill-seeking adventures that brought him near death a dozen times.

In the midst of a war, he had a light bulb moment and realized that all the thrill and adventure had not brought him meaning in life. He shares his story and journey of how he found the life of serving and helping others that he lives today.

Some areas of discussion:

  • Life as an adventurer
  • Taking enormous risks in the battle in Vietnam
  • Solving difficult public problems
  • Life in the Foreign Service
  • Life as a Diplomat
  • The power of story to change people
  • Creating a curriculum for students to provide the best service-learning free on the planet.
  • Realizing the fullness of who you are
  • Overcoming PTSD
  • Life’s moral compass in asking big questions such as: what will build justice, end pain?
  • Men struggling to find their feminine side

-Loving your kids is meaningful

-Playing catch, being a coach to your kid’s team, taking your grandkids for a while

-Being compassionate to someone that hates your guts

  • Finding what you’re meant to do
  • Creating meaning in your life that lasts

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Scarcity Mindset With Jiaying Zhao

Today on Mindset Monday I speak with Jiaying Zhao about the Scarcity mindset and how it impacts everyone. She brings her own story about growing up in China living in an area experiencing poverty and tells us that is has led her to dedicate her life to researching and helping some of the most vulnerable and poor people. She shares her lens on this topic as well as some research and statistics from her work.

Meet Jiaying

Jiaying has her Ph.D. in Cognitive Psychology and is an Assistant Professor for the Department of Psychology at UBC. She is a Canada Research Chair (t2) in Behavioral Sustainability. She belongs to the Institute for Resources, Environment, and Sustainability. She loves her work of research, supervising students, research projects, teaching, and service.

On the Synergy Mindset Podcast, she takes us back to the beginning of her story and shares about her life growing up in China. She tells us she grew up poor and had intimate experiences in her family and in society at that time. Her family got out of poverty and she was able to pursue an education in Canada.

She was interested in poverty because of her personal experience and when she was in graduate school, one of her Ph.D. advisors was working on poverty. Jiaying jumped on board immediately because it was a personal interest and passion of hers since childhood. They wanted to understand what makes the poor poor and for the last decade have been investigating a psychological cognitive explanation of the behaviors of low-income individuals.

Scarcity Mindset is a condition of not having enough or the feeling of not having enough. This can be money, time, calories, pretty much anything. It is experienced by pretty much everyone in the world.

When someone is feeling scarcity they begin to tunnel their resources. They focus only on the task at hand and can end up making poor decisions due to a lack of seeing the big picture.

Jiaying uses the example of money scarcity and how people borrow money, such as payday loans, with high interest to solve the moment’s problems. They neglect everything else and those other things are equally important. This is a cognitive phenom.

There are other scarcity mindsets. There are social driven ones as well. In society, we tend to view low-income individuals as lazy or not-competent and it is most of the time, unfair and not true. The poor suffer a lot of stigma because of their poverty identity. Therefore, a poor person may be worried about how others view them based on the perception that they know the average person will view them. These are mental burdens on the poor.

It uses cognitive resources and the worry has effects. This constant worry reduces IQ and decreases performance. When Jiaying grew up in China in the 80’s everyone was poor therefore she experienced equality. Here in Canada, we have inequality of super-rich to all ranges which causes even more of a stereotype.

We need to change the public perception of the poor and there are several initiatives on the way. 

Self-fulfilling Prophecy

A vicious cycle, the person perceives the stereotype is true about them, therefore, acts with behavior that is destructive or will be in ways to confirm the belief and ends up becoming the person that the stigma projects. It can be broken by realizing the stereotype or belief is not true. This is how we can begin to dissociate the situation from the individual. The individual can change their belief about themselves and therefore change their behavior.

Policymakers can help make a difference as well. Jiaying has met with leaders to discuss how the government can help by increasing the overall income for low-income people. She suggests that we look at the impact the cash incentives will have on a person and what their individual needs are. If someone is not well or able to make decisions then we should provide services that are helpful. For some, they only need cash, they don’t need all the services and programs. We should use our due diligence to look at the impact that we are having.

Studies show that most people that are given a cash incentive do not use it on gambling or drugs and alcohol, they use it for good.

They are struggling to live in that scarcity context and need as little burden put on their lives as possible. Their cognitive bandwidth needs to be protected and we could look at how could we make it easier for them? One way Jiaying suggests is to offer automatic supplements if they make under a certain amount. She believes the help when they seek it needs to be easier to access, they should not have to request it.

What can people in poverty do to turn their life around?

Jiaying tells me it is the same things that everyone else would do. She doesn’t feel anyone should tell them what to do but if we want to work together we can offer to help them brainstorm. They are incredibly able to take care of themselves and seek out support. It is helpful to remind them of appointments if they would like that help as it is really hard to manage those things without a planner or calendar.

What she believes that all of us can do: Self-care!

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Healthy Mind and Hormones with Dr. Cobi

Woman are like the thermostat of the home, there is a ripple into their families, jobs and everything they do if they are not well. This week on Mindset Monday is our first Practitioner interview with Dr. Cobi from Essential Health Natural Wellness Clinic.

We all know it is important to have a healthy body but I ask her why is it important to have a healthy mind?

Dr. Cobi tells us that it doesn’t really matter how healthy your physical body is if your mind is not. If you are struggling with depression or anxiety you may not answer you are doing alright. If you have a really healthy mindset and are struggling with physical symptoms, you can sort of overlook them if your mindset is healthy.

How do you help woman achieve optimal health?

Dr. Cobi’s specialty is Hormonal Health. She found that the underlying cause of many of the woman she would see was because of a hormone issue. Upon realizing this Dr. Cobi returned to school to earn her Ph.D. in Endocrine Function, (Basically Hormone Issues) She found herself falling more and more in love with hormones as she witnessed the impact it had on her patients.

She tells us that Woman’s hormones shift throughout the month and depending on the sensitivity during these shifts, it can equal a lot of issues. When a woman comes in and is struggling with fatigue, mood swings, menstrual issues, weight gain or other symptoms the first thing she helps them with is to recognize why they are feeling that way and discover the underlying cause. She helps them to discover it through comprehensive hormone testing, kind of the, “Hallmark foundation”, of her practice.

You could be feeling anxiety that could be coming from several different hormone issues, that is why is very important to find out the cause of the symptoms before treating them.

She uses lifestyle changes first such as asking questions like, how did you get here in the first place? If it is stress, she will help her to make lifestyle changes. She uses specialized natural hormone therapies, natural herbal medicine remedies supplements and detox.

How did Dr. Cobi find her path?

Growing up, her Mom was always interested in natural health and her Grandpa was a herbalist so she got a bit of exposure from him. Dr. Cobi knew she was going to be a doctor or pharmacist from a young age.

While he was in school her Mother developed a rare blood condition and was in the hospital for a year. She had to leave school and witnessed her mother go from being told that she would not live a healthy productive life to thriving. She tapped into her belief of natural medicine and although conventional medicine saved her, Natural Medicine brought her back to fully living.

After this experience, she switched her path into Natural Medicine Healing.

Q. What is something that you find you are often repeating to your clients?

A. That when you come to Dr. Cobi, you won’t be just taking a couple of pills and going home. She makes a reference to a marriage, both people have to work at it.

Q. What can a first-time client do to best prepare for a first appointment.

A. She finds most people have been down the path for a while and are ready for some changes or a shift in a different direction. She hopes they are open to making some changes in the foods they eat, the lifestyle they are living and this question, how do I treat the cause so I don’t have to keep treating the symptoms? This is about 50% of the work she tells us.

Q. Is there anything you would like to share?

A. Her passion is to help people live their best life. She is on the team of the patient no matter what that looks like. It could be conventional medicine, natural medicine, coaching…. Whatever that looks like that is what you will get.

Dr. Cobi has offered you two free gifts.

The first is a 7-day hormone reset. https://programs.drcobi.com/7-day

 free web class on Optimizing Health and Hormones. https://programs.drcobi.com/webclass-2

The interview is available on the Podcast: Here 

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International Best Selling Author of:

Author of The Ultimate Gluten and Dairy Free Cookbook

Author of The Ultimate Candida Guide and Cookbook

Author of The Ultimate Hormone Balancing Guidebook

Author of The Ultimate Metabolic Plan Uncovering and Conquering the Roadblocks to Weight Loss

About Dr. Cobi

Dr. Cobi Slater is a Board-Certified Doctor of Natural Medicine, Registered Herbal Therapist, Registered Nutritionist and she also holds a Ph.D. in Natural Health Sciences. Dr. Cobi is the founder of Essential Health Natural Wellness Clinic located in Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada.

Dr. Cobi is extremely passionate about helping others heal naturally as well as empowering patients to live a life of optimal health. Dr. Cobi is a regular guest on many international radio and TV health shows. She also contributes to numerous publications as a health expert and is the International Best-Selling Author of 5 health books including The Ultimate Candida Guide and Cookbook, The Ultimate Hormone Balancing Guidebook, The Ultimate Metabolic Plan, The Ultimate Gluten and Dairy Free Cookbook and Refresh, Revive, Restore 10-Day Detox.

Dr Cobi has helped thousands of patients regain their health through lifestyle changes resulting in a freedom to enjoy life like never before!

Post Traumatic Growth from Failed Relationships with Katrina Goff

Have you felt the pain of losing someone that you love followed by the frustration of thinking about how difficult starting over would be? Post Traumatic Growth can show up from failed relationships. If you are hurting or keep repeating the same cycle of relationship- single- relationship tune in to this podcast interview with Katrina Goff.

Katrina Goff, CAPP, CRT, is a positive psychology practitioner, and a certified resilience trainer, licensed to facilitate the Bounce Back Better(R) system, a Flourishing Center Program.
The interview is available on the Podcast: Here 

Katrina spent the majority of her career working in Health Care and with the Military. She came across the term, Post Traumatic Growth in a Psychology class she was taking and was able to share it with several service members in active duty over the years. It gave them some hope, and she could help them to see a different side of life other than just Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

She is passionate about helping people have happier and healthier relationships and helping people see there is something else outside of just being stuck in the trauma of a situation, that you can find good in situations and you can have maybe a different life than you anticipated but that it can be even better than you dreamed.

Mindset

It’s all about how we choose to look at things and really being aware of the thoughts that come into our minds and what we do with them.

Sometimes we are getting something out of holding into trauma and are not ready to let it go. The longer we entertain a negative or painful thought the quicker it will pop back into our head. We have automatic thoughts and we have the power to take control over it, we do not have to entertain them.

We may not have had control over the initial situation but what we think and feel about it is definitely in our control.

PTSD

We often think of war, a serious illness, death of a loved one, rape or anything traumatic but when we think about a failed relationship that can be one of the most traumatic events that ever happen to us in our life.

We have invested our time, our heart, our mind into believing we are going to have that relationship forever. Perhaps that person is your best friend and you never imagined not having them in your life. Due to some circumstances regardless of fault, it can be debilitating.

We can want to lay in bed and our thoughts can focus on the negative like how our life will never be the same and that we won’t have it back again. These thoughts don’t lead us forward.

Post Traumatic Growth (PTG)

When we can see it and know how it shows up we can build more of it into our lives. One way that it shows up for Katrina is in Spirituality. Knowing she has a Heavenly Father that loves her and being part of something bigger than herself is very important to her. She knew when she was hurting that she was never alone.

She tells us that when our heart feels it is breaking we tend to want to isolate ourselves and we feel we are the only person that ever felt that way but we are not alone, everyone feels this way and have had a heartbreaking experience.

Meaning – I can make an understanding of what happened and expect that something is going to be better in the future because of it.

We are meaning-making creatures and want to figure out what we learned so we can share it with others. PTG comes from asking questions such as, What was my part in that breakup, what did I miss? How can I help other people?  It is hard to do but if we don’t get to the heart of this, we can end up in that repeating cycle of relationship, single and heartbreak or we never believe we can have it.

Purpose – Future focuses, What am I going to do with that info that came from meaning?

What gifts, skills, abilities, and talents have I come across that can help other people?

Katrina’s Journey

Before her Marriage Fitness Training had a name she knew she was going to find PTG from her experience. She had a failed marriage followed by relationships that didn’t end well and she came to a point in her life that she would NOT settle. She said we can all come to a point that we see we are good enough, we will not accept less than what meets our needs.

She offers some words of wisdom, if you are at that point of failed relationships, Stop!!! Don’t jump into a relationship until you can clearly define in your heart and mind, What do you need, what do you desire and how can you clearly articulate that?

She shares, with vulnerability, that this comes from a place of been there done that. The audio is available and you can hear all the details by listening on the player above or you can find us on Apple music and Stitcher Radio, Synergy Mindset Coaching Podcast.

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Katrina is the creator of “Marriage Fitness Training: What’s STRONG with your Marriage” and “Building Post Traumatic Growth”, and many more. Katrina’s mission statement, simply put, is to help people discover their goals, develop their strengths, and determine the path to their success. She is passionate about the science of well-being and resilience. Katrina is the co-owner of Goff Impact Consulting with the love of her life and husband Jay Goff also a John Maxwell speaker, trainer, coach. Katrina is passionate about helping people have healthier and happier relationships. She uses a strengths-based approach and teaches others to first answer the question “what’s right with me, what’s right with others?”

Survivors Guilt with Ryan M. Esquivel

Today on Mindset Monday, Ryan M. Esquivel shares his journey to overcome Survivors Guilt, PTSD and trauma to living a life that is full of love, joy and helping others on their own personal journey.

His journey began in February of 2004 when his roommate and best friend was killed in action. He was with him a couple of hours before he died and that moment kept playing in his head long after he returned home.

When he returned home he threw himself into work and his military relationship suffered, his personal relationships suffered, because he wanted his friend back. Ryan began to blame people and his world contracted as people began leaving him. It wasn’t until about 2008 when he experienced a one in a million moments.

A private ran into him in Southern California and asked him if he knew his roommate. It turned out that it was his best friend. They learned to value each other and became really good friends over the years. Ryan tells us that was the start of his faith, a belief in a God, energy, something out there. He began to start to put his life together and see-sawed back and forth of finding a job, losing a job, in and out of that dark place.

He discovered that you need to find the joy, your purpose and the meaning of life. It may sound cliche but when you are on a journey you learn that when you share your pain it feels better. It wasn’t until 2018 that looking back he was able to see, people had been taking care of him all along.

His Fav. Book

  • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck

  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker

As we get deep into Ryan’s journey he shares how carrying Survivors Guilt began to impact his relationship with his family. He replayed the picture in his mind and wanted to go back and change it. He realized that loving people is hard, sharing is hard and the more you love and share the easier it becomes. Listen to the whole interview to hear the whole story.

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Life Happens, Live It! With Jake French

In the blink of an eye, Jake’s life changed course and he ended up being paralyzed from the chin down. In just a few short days, he made the decision to choose to adopt the motto Life Happens, Live it! It took some time for him to live that motto to its fullest and he shares his journey with us here.

I want to thank Joel from Relaunch for introducing me to Jake.  What really inspired me to share Jake’s story was listening to the podcast Mere Mortals Unite, with Julie Ann Sullivan.

Jake tells us that people can see his wheelchair so they know exactly what he is dealing with, but other people have some kind of wheelchair that we just can’t see.

He is a University of Idaho graduate and a huge fan of anything outdoors.

Despite the difficulties he has encountered in his life, he is able to make others smile and turn things away from a victim mindset into a being the leader and speaker that he is today.

His Second Chance Story

Jake was on top of the world and, celebrating receiving his degree, to work in his dream job in forestry. He had been drinking and celebrating when he ran into his old childhood best friend. A freak accident took place between when his friend took him down in a headlock, and Jake couldn’t brace his fall landing head first in the pavement. He later found out he became a C6 Quadriplegic that evening. Sharing his story, we will find out how he was able to find happiness in a different way that he had planned the day he had graduated.

The Turn Around Point

When he was in the therapy room he was surrounded by people who were really hurting. He witnessed another patient whom’s way of looking at her situation changed his whole perspective. This is when he began to look around and realize that he was not the worst off in the world. He committed to healing as victoriously as he was able to.

You can listen to the whole interview to hear all the details of Jake’s experience.

A Closer Look

 What about you changed the most from this experience?

Jake was no longer able to do many of the things he once could. He tells us how his Mom was amazing and taught him to never give up. With his perseverance and courage, he learned how to do many things again including driving.

What is one piece of guidance you would like to share with us?

He tells us a hilarious story about how someone brought him a hot pink wheelchair and his friends had a good laugh and called it ManGenta. He asks what has happened in your life that you can turn into you own ManGenta situation and how can you find the funny in the situation?

What is one resource you couldn’t have made it without?

Never Give Up! Success in Life Is an Attitude Paperback – 2005.                                                                                             by Ron Heagy (Author),‎ Donita Dyer (Author) https://www.amazon.com/Never-Give-Success-Life-Attitude/dp/0975417207

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