Something to Live for with Rob Decker

How do you free yourself from the struggles and pains that started in the generations before you were born? What happens when a parent is not equipped with everything they need to parent well, and they are not able to learn the skills necessary? Our guest today shares his story of a difficult and dark start to life, followed by struggle nearly ending with suicide. He takes us on his journey where he found God, hope and healing. We will hear how he found forgiveness, love and freed himself from the chains of addiction and anger. Today Rob shares: How to Rebuild Your Life After Trying To Take It & Find Hope And Healing In Jesus.
Rob Decker: Husband, Father, Personal Fitness Trainer, Health Coach, Best Selling Author, Speaker. Rob has a beautiful wife that he has been married to for 5 years and a son with a baby on the way. He is sharing a difficult testimony to give others hope. Fitness and faith are a cornerstone for him today. Rob’s Testimony starts with his Mom. She had a difficult childhood that included: rape, abuse and neglect. She was thrown from foster home to foster home and was encouraged to have an abortion when she became pregnant with Rob. Being against abortion, she married the man that Rob knew as his Dad. Rob found out a little later that this man was not his Dad and was not allowed to use his last name. This created separation, strife and division between Rob and his sister. This man, referred to as his father, was an x military fighter in the military and his parenting style conflicted with his Mom’s. Rob witnessed a lot of violence, drug use and darkness. By the time he was a teenager, his Dad had left his Mom and everyone he loved was on Meth. This is an inspiring story and you won’t want to miss all of the details, you can listen on the Podcast: Here At the young age of 14 or 15 Rob began his journey of using and drinking. He experienced:
  • Being in a dozen fights
  • Having a shotgun pulled on him
  • Getting very verbal with people
  • Being evicted from his house
In Rob’s 20 he experienced a chain of bad relationships. If a relationship was good he sabotaged it himself. He met a man that preached about Jesus Christ and he was not yet open to hearing about him. In total survivor mode, Rob made poor choices that included selling drugs and becoming involved in a dangerous and destructive relationship. Rob was working out and at that time was the only positive thing he had done with his time. In the pain of another relationship ending, he accepted the offer to attend a bible study and accepted the Salvation offered through Jesus Christ. A Dark Night After his new found faith he ended up with the girl he had ended the relationship with. In a heated argument, he went downstairs and fell asleep. Rob woke to the Police banging on the door and she told him that she told the police he had raped and beat her. Rob’s emotions became too much to handle and he jumped out of the third story window. On the way down, his foot clipped an awning and changed the direction of his fall. Instead of dying, Rob found himself looking up, unable to move in a tremendous amount of pain. At this moment, Rob asked God why he let him live? His plan had not gone the way he had expected. In excruciating pain, Rob was arrested for rape and put under 24-hour surveillance. The officer told him he was a bad person right before she showed up at the hospital. Conversation With God After she was shown out of the hospital Rob had a conversation with God. He asked what was going to happen? In the moment of conversation, he was given great peace. He heard a voice that told him the charges would be dropped, the bills paid and that he would walk again. Rob dosed off into a dream of playing soccer. He woke up and the light, sounds and pain was all back. The charges were dropped and he was allowed to have guests. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast interview: Here What We Learn:
  • How his Mom responded when she visited
  • How he walked again
  • The forgiveness he found for others
  • Building a relationship with his Mom
  • Receiving a bill for $800K+.
Faith In Action While Rob was healing some Christian brothers from church picked him up and brought him to church back brace and all. He was broken and beaten and kept turning to God. Living with his Mom was not working as she was taking his pain meds and he ended up staying with friends. Rob went for long walks, read his bible and prayed a lot. He knew that God didn’t want him to continue to live off of Disability and despite the immense pain, he continued taking steps to heal For a couple of years, Rob lived out of a garage. He had been a Personal Trainer prior to the accident took a job at a gym for a short time. He was asked to train his bosses roommate and she became his wife. Quitting Drinking Rob’s wife was a big part of his ability to quit drinking. With God’s help and a nine-month battle, Rob quit drinking. Not before making a big mistake. Rob drove under the influence of alcohol and crashed her car. In the moments of difficulty, Rob negotiated with God and asked for his help. He agreed to move with her, marry her and quit drinking. God basically bailed Rob out of the situation and he quit drinking. What is amazing, he had no desire to drink again. They moved out to Colorado Springs and started a family. God opened some amazing doors for Rob and he began doing work that really helped people spiritually and emotionally. Faith and Fitness Rob brought his experience healing from a life of trauma and difficulty and his love of fitness together. He is now able to have deep conversations with people while helping them to strengthen their physical bodies at the same time. His wife and himself are creating a ministry in their garage. It is a place where people can feel safe to share their past and find forgiveness, fellowship and support. Rob can help them to :
  • Get off of drugs
  • Pray
  • Talk about God
  • Experience Fellowship
  • Do Pushups and Prayer
  • Do Jumping Jacks and Jesus
  • Find Faith, family and Fitness.
The whole interview is available for you to listen to 24/7
https://anchor.fm/synergymindsetcoaching/episodes/Something-To-Live-For-With-Rob-Decker-e45fo1
Favourite Book: The Holy Bible https://www.bible.com Links:

Amazing 300+ lb weight loss with Less Stratford

Les Stratford
Les Stratford

Les works in the food industry and takes time for his health every day as well as spends time with his family.

My podcasting friend Sam Lomelli introduced Les and I. He interviewed Les on his podcast, Tips Of The Scale. If you want to hear Les tell his amazing weight loss story you can listen by clicking the link below.

http://tipsofthescale.com/58-les-stratford/

Les has a blog that is inspiring, click here http://boml.wordpress.com/

What Happened? 

In 2010 Les weighted 510 lbs. He was having difficulty breathing, and when he couldn’t take 6 steps without being out of breath, he went to the hospital.

He had 6 blood clots and needed emergency surgery immediately.  His options were given to him and he ended up having surgery while he was awake.

He had a clean bill of health when the Cardiologist told him there was no damage, and his nephew was happy to celebrate with him. You can listen to the audio interview on the Podcast: Here 

Les
Les

To hear the whole interview you can listen to the Podcast: Here

Religious Beliefs

He believes in God. He went to a Christian school.  He found organized religion turned him off a little bit towards attending religiously so to speak. When he walked out of the hospital with a clean bill of health he thanked God.

Rebuilding

He started walking little by little with his nephews’ support. He felt uneasy until he had seen the doctor and took it easy. Once he was given the clean bill of health, he increased the distance and put in a lot of effort.

He continued to up the goals, and try and achieve them to make himself feel good. Now he focuses on strength training.

His most recent yearly check up the doctor could not find anything he needs to work on!!!! He has lost 300+ lbs.

Other people heard his story on Sam’s podcast and reached out to him. He began public speaking and motivation others by sharing his story.

Books and Music

Amy Grant’s music got him through his tough times. He was able to meet with her backstage to share his story.  https://itunes.apple.com/ca/artist/amy-grant/id94363

Parting Words

“If you get a second chance don’t waste it. Grab the bull by the horns and just focus.”

Contact Info:

After Cancer What’s Next? with Louise Ennis

“After the rollercoaster ride of Chemotherapy, you’re told that you are healed. What’s Next?”

Her Second Chance Story

 Louise had just completed 4 years of university and began her dream job as a Dental Hygienist when she was given a cancer diagnosis and only 4 years to live without life-changing surgery.

In this interview, she courageously shares her story for the first time. Thank you for spending your time with us today, if this story brings you hope or inspiration please connect with Louise through the links below or share her story so it may reach many others.

Louise Ennis is a Self Discovery Coach and Solution Focused Hypnotherapist based in Llandudno, a seaside town in North Wales in the UK.

Her Worst Moment

She was tired and having stomach pain quite a lot and her Mom told her to go and get it checked out.

She was put on medical treatment for IBS and then it was found out on the follow-up, she had polyps in her stomach that were cancerous.

Her Dad told her not to worry, that everything was fine and going to be ok. She was Daddy’s little girl and believed him, and he was right, everything was really ok.

It was stage 3 Cancer and her large bowel was removed. It took 5 years after, for the surgeon to tell her that the concern for it spreading to her liver was over. This was a real celebration point!!

Having Chemotherapy and Surgery was the worst point. She was not going to allow it to defeat her and she worked up until the last couple of treatments. Louise learned that it was all about having a positive mindset to get through.

You can listen to the entire interview on the Podcast: Here 

The Turnaround Point

As a stubborn child when she was young, she turned it into survivor mode. This helped her to get through. Tragically, her Mom suddenly passed away and she had to work through a lot of grief.

She began to run, starting one night while waiting for the bus. She signed up for the London Marathon and stuck to the training plan and completed it, raising money for charity along the way.

She speaks about the powerful healing running had to help her get through all the emotion from losing her Mom.  

A Closer Look

What about you changed the most from this experience?

Louise found a love of yoga, running and living a life that is fulfilling. She began helping others that have physically healed from Cancer yet need support for the, What Now? Question.

What wisdom would you share you gained?

Helping others is very healing. It has made a huge difference in her life and she feels happy and blessed to share in being able to help them.

Hear the whole story by listening to the audio interview below!

Links

Finding Inner Peace with Chris Shea

Episode #49 Finding Inner Peace with Chris Shea

Chris lives in the small town of Marilyn and has over 20 years of experience in the addiction and counselling field. His, “Lifesjourney Life Coaching, LLC grew from its founding as a blog into the coaching, counselling and consulting group it is today.

The audio interview is available on the Podcast: Here 

In an effort to help people to find inner peace, He speaks at conferences and gatherings nationwide and is proud to be published in medical and clinical journals, as well as on various internet sites. Professionally he is a nationally and state certified addiction counsellor as well as a nationally certified Life Coach.

He is a Professor at two different Universities and also works with teenagers at a High School. Today Chris is here to share his own personal, Second Chance Story.

 

 His Second Chance Story

Chris tells us of a time that he considers to be his lowest and it was about five years ago. Being a Type A Person, things are often rushed, stressed and anxious.

He moved up quickly in his job and then realized that something was missing inside. Chris started to think that he needed a change and to get out of the face paced life.

He was offered a job at a High School in a small town, Maryland as a Campus Minister/Chaplain and as he had a degree in Theology he thought it to be a great change. A few weeks later, he realized that he went to the top of his game to sitting in a high school office, wondering, Where do I go from here? He was stressed out the whole year-long, as he brought a corporate view into what was not a corporate job.

His low point was that although he looked forward to having the summer off, it was the first time he had that much time off. The first week was like a vacation and the second week was when he began to wonder what he was going to do.

It was hard to sleep, his mind began to wander and he felt lost. Chris tells us he wouldn’t call it depression yet it was a very difficult time. He felt he was at a crossroad, one way was to sit and wonder if he made the right decision while sitting in misery and anxious depression and the other way was to figure out where life was going and what he was going to do.

The Turnaround Point

Chris started a somewhat public journal. He shared things that were in his head and shared them to go wherever they went.

For the first time in his life, he figured out how to find mindfulness without being caught in the whole Type A type thing. Now he does a lot, yet it is intentional and in a much more mindful way.

Are you in that place right now? Do you feel like you are stuck and are not sure how to move on? You are not alone.

Chris told us that you don’t have to start a blog, yet it would be helpful to find a way to channel what you need to get out, an outlet. It could be a public blog, journal, exercise, (in a mindful way),  or whatever works for you.

 A Closer Look

  • What about you changed the most from this experience?

Chris is more relaxed now. Things don’t bother him like they used to.

  • What wisdom would you share you gained?

Chris shares a quote that he picked up moving on from that summer: “We  don’t see the world as it is, we see it as WE are.” -unknown This is a quote he really tries to live by. He also tells us that no one person has all the wisdom, take what works for you from each person and make it your own.

  • Share one of your personal habits that contributed to overcoming this.

Reading inspirational material is important to Chris. He keeps his mind focused and believes that we never stop learning.

  • Share a resource, like a podcast or a book, that you couldn’t have made it without.

Eckhart Tolle  

What is the one thing you are most passionate about today?

Spreading the word about finding inner peace is what Chris is really passionate about. We start by saying, “Yes, It’s Possible”! Then finding ways.

  Grand Finale

“There are no problems, only solutions”. No matter what happens to us there is always a solution. Sometimes the solution is acceptance.

Links

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Lifesjourneyblog4

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesjourney_life_coaching/     

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christophershea1          

Google: https://plus.google.com/+Lifesjourneyblog4

You can find out more about Chris at: www.lifesjourneyblog.com

Thank you to Courtney Blair from Zippy Content for the introduction and bio. www.zippycontent.com

Devastating Tornado to Resilient Communities with Dr. C.J. Huff

C.J. Huff

Our guest today is a Husband, Father, Inspirational Speaker and Professional Consultant living in Joplin USA.  For 7 years he was Superintendent of Joplin Schools. He led his district of 1,100 employees and 7,700 students through the recovery effort of one of the most devastating tornadoes in U.S. history.

Dr. Huffs’ Second Chance Story

  •  EF5  Tornado hit Joplin, Missouri on May 22 2011
  • This wasn’t something that one could prepare for emotionally, mentally or physically. They had 10 buildings that were damaged and 6 were destroyed with missing children, families and workers.
  • People asked how to take the next steps forward and it felt like an insurmountable task.

Bonus Question

What was it in you that made you stay and care so deeply about everyone else when you could have left to be with your kids and family?

C.J. did miss his family however he knew they were all safe. When he was laying on a cot at night in the middle school he said a little prayer for the people caught in the storm and for clarity. He asked, ” What was the role of the School District, what was it we could bring to this?” He got back a clear answer, “We take care of kids on a day-to-day basis.” He then focused on how he could do this after the storm.

The Turn Around Point

Covered in the Bonus Question above.

Disaster Recovery First Steps Forward You can listen to the rest of the interview on the podcast: Here

A Closer Look

What about you changed the most from this experience?

  • In spite of all the negativity we see out there on the daily news, there are a lot of good people out there. He looks at humanity differently after witnessing the people who came out to help that didn’t know anyone at all.
  • He was humbled by the children of all ages that came out to help collect money and help out with the cleanup efforts without the influence of their parents. This helped him to have great faith with the future generation.

What wisdom would you share you gained?

C.J. Huff didn’t feel called to give wisdom however he shared what he learned.

  • It all comes down to relationships, relationships with God, his family and the community.
  • The kids that showed amazing resiliency had a good family support structure and a strong sense of faith. If they had at least one of these they had better odds of overcoming significant challenges.

One Personal Habit That Contributed To Working Through This

  • He worked! He tells us it is not always a good habit because he has good old farm work habits and can work and become too engrossed in the work.
  • His best habit is listening to his wife! He made sure to take a step back from time to time and spend time with his family. She was good at helping him to do this.

His Resources

What is one thing you are passionate about today?

Bright Futures USA is a s a non-profit organization dedicated to bringing communities together to focus on the success of children.

Parting Piece of Guidance

Love your families and hug them every day. Know that every day could be that day…. We have to be prepared mentally, physically and spiritually for things that are thrown our way.  When adversity happens, take a step back, get clarity first and then figure out step by step how to move forward.

Links 

Thank you to Courtney Blair at Zippy Content for the introduction and  Little Bird Marketing  for the fabulous bio.

Back from Heaven’s Front Porch with Danny Bader

Life is a gift and at any moment can be taken from us. It is a miracle that our guest today is alive and here to share his amazing story. He brings hope in the darkest of places and wisdom he learned from a difficult journey.

Danny Bader is a best-selling author, inspirational coach, a member of the Elite Catholic Speakers Organization, CatholicSpeakers.com, and he has an inspiring Instagram page. He has worked with some of the biggest organizations in the nation and has delivered over 10,000 hours inspiring others to live their best life. His purpose of sharing his time with us today is to tell us about how a near-death experience transformed his life.

Life Today

Danny Bader lives outside of Philadelphia Pennsylvania with his wife and three children. He spends time with his family, travels, works, goes to the beach, runs and works out a little bit.

 Second Chance Story

  • Take us to the moment in time that you would consider the worst moment of your second chance story and tell us the STORY. We’ll share what you learned.

Danny was in an accident before he was 29 years old. He and his friend were lowering a ladder and tragically and certainly mistakenly hit an electrical line that had 8-10,000 volts of electricity in it. It came down the metal ladder and went into their bodies and killed his friend Bruce that day. Bruce was a great father of 3 a husband and only 36 years old.

Danny had an experience of peace and knew he was dying or dead. His soul, spirit, life force, energy (whatever you want to call it), left his body. He absolutely believes now that when our human bodies stop working, there is a part of us that continues on. He called his book, Back from Heaven’s Front Porch, because he had an experience of that but he knew he had further to go, he explains that experience as being on Heaven’s front porch, and then he was back in his body. It was the strangest experience he has had and not of this world.

He crawled over and helped the other brother Stew, and he was trying to help Bruce. He asked him how he was here? Danny took his boots off because his feet were killing him. He took off his boots and socks and feet had little holes in them. There was not any blood because the electricity cauterized them.

Stew came over and asked Danny what happened. Danny told him he must have hit a wire and Stew said he knew. Danny said he saw him coming down the ladder and was yelling at him to get his brother.  Stew said that he had not said anything, that Stew had rolled him over and given him CPR and tried to save him, given up and thought he was dead. He left Danny to try and save his brother Bruce. Danny was without oxygen for 7-8 minutes, this is a lot longer than the human brain can live. He doesn’t know if there is a medical reason he is here.

The Second Chance Story came after that because he went into a dark place, he wouldn’t let anyone help him, he was experiencing Survivors Guilt.

  1. The Turn Around Point
  • Take us to the moment in time of an incredible turnaround point you’ve experienced and tell us the STORY. We’ll explore the steps you took or the faith you used to walk your journey.

He came out of a bar after drinking way too much, went into a phone booth and phoned his Mom. She asked him when he was coming home and said they couldn’t wait to see him.  This changed his life direction. He had made plans to engage in an act of self-destruction and be done with it all. With tears in his eyes and a lump in his throat he told her he would come in a few days.

Something inside him shifted and he asked a question, “I wonder what it’s gonna be like when I get better?”

He got up the next day and began to make the trip to see his Mom, it wasn’t all better but it was certainly the turn around point.

  1. A Closer Look
  • What about you changed from this experience?

Faith is belief without proof and this gave him a little bit of proof. It got him focused on life and being really alive and engaging in this life.

  • What wisdom would you share you gained?

He went to a Coaching School and had a final project to complete that was to make a model of principles. He reflected on the accident and realized that after what he wanted most was to be happy and live a fulfilling life. He asked what creates more happiness and fulfillment for himself and others. He put his spin on some basic principles that have been around for thousands of years.

He came up with 5 principles he calls Jackrabbit.

  • Share one of your personal habits that contributed to overcoming this.

Planning the year as if it had already happened. Shifting his thinking to be useful and moving him forward. You can listen to the entire interview on Apple Podcast or on this page to hear the whole story.

  • Share a resource, like a podcast or a book, that you couldn’t have made it without.

Man’s Search for Meaning 

He also recommends Wayne Dyre and Robin Sharma’s books as well as

The Travelers Gift

 Grand Finale

  • Every day is a second chance to create, trust and be thankful for this wonderful gift of life.

Parting piece of guidance:

  • If you are not already, practice vision. Pretend you are going to be talking with Gina or Danny and telling us about the last 6 months of your life. What was it like, what did you accomplish?
  • Get really tight with your email and to do list. “Get cleaned up at a tactical level”, practice gratitude, pay attention to what is bigger and greater than us.

Links

Music credit with gratitude to Scott Holmes. Song Innovative Corporate  scottholmesmusic.com URL: http://freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott_Holmes/Corporate__Motivational_Music