Second Chance at Life and Marriage

Nick was given a second chance at life when he was hit head-on by a Buick as a teenager.  He was incredibly resilient and bounced back quickly. Life crept up on him and before he knew it he was successful in business but not as much at home. He was working over 60 hours a week……   He shares the journey he took to become a good husband and father. As a bonus, he shares important information about wills and guardians, to help you make sure you have everything in order and a good sense of security in your family.

Nick Pavlidis

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I asked Nick about his faith before his accident. He grew up in a Greek Orthodox family and is a Greek Orthodox Christian.  He was relatively connected with his church before and still is today.
He is a little more introverted with his church and prefers to take it all in. He feels connected, and his family lives a Greek Orthodox Christian life. Nick’s accident and life events did not seem to have any influence on his faith. You can listen to the audio on the Podcast: Here 

What Happened?

When Nick was only 17 years old, he was involved in a terrible accident. A Buick driving on the wrong side of the road hit him head-on.  He was driving an ice cream delivery vehicle, and unfortunately, was not wearing his seatbelt. Nick was thrown into the windshield and the column of the steering wheel was pushed into his chest.

Nick didn’t have a detectable heartbeat and thankfully there was a paramedic living nearby that came to his aid.

Nick recalls having a seizure, then everything went dark and he passed out. He never experienced a stereotypical near-death experience and tells us it was a physical, traumatic experience more than a spiritual one.

Nick had to recover in the hospital and had major injuries. The only thing that wasn’t damaged on his face was his nose. It took hours to pick all of the glass out of his head and he needed several surgeries.

You can hear the whole story on the podcast.

Moving On

He finished high school, recovered from the accident and went full steam ahead, putting his near-death experience behind him.

Nick graduated college, went to law school and moved to New York City.  He went to undergrad, 5 years, and 3 years of law, 8 years total. He made a lot of great friends, but he was in the zone. He studied and worked 20-40 hours while he went to school.

He then hustled, worked 60-80 hours a week as a corporate litigation lawyer in New York.  7 years later he started to feel uncomfortable, and something started pulling him away. He had kids and was needed more at home. He wanted to connect more with his wife, kids and be a family.

He felt a strong family wouldn’t have to worry about putting food on the table, they would work together and make it work. When things started getting weak at home he knew something had to change.

He started blogging and making changes. He is big on personal responsibility but never made the connection to it at home. He was pointing the finger as opposed to helping at home. When he started writing, he talked about personal responsibility.

He made the connection through the writing a book, blogging about personal responsibility and marriage. That was the biggest change to his family.

Why you need a will and guardians for your children. How do you choose someone?

If you die and do not have a will, the decision of who your children will live with may be put in the courts’ hands. Your money, assets, and belongings could end up being divided in a way that doesn’t benefit your children.

*Each state has different laws, therefore you should have your will re-done if you relocate.

Choosing a guardian/godparents for your children may be difficult. You do not want to overload someone with too many children, in the event you pass away.

It is so important to choose someone who has values and principles congruent to yours.

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Books

John Millers series on,  question behind the question. This helped Nick a lot with personal accountability. There is one called parenting question behind the question that is great.

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Jordan Agolli Life Threatening Car Accident

Our guest today is here to share his story of being in a car accident at the age of only 17. It is a tale of miracles, divine intervention, and inspiration for anyone experiencing difficulty in life.

Religious Beliefs 

Jordan was raised in a Christian family. went to Christian school and church every Sunday. The accident did not have any bearing on his religious beliefs. He did begin to question them around 17 years old. Today he is searching what it is he finds to be true but labels himself as agnostic when people ask.

Near-Death Experience

Jordan’s brother was driving down a regular 2 lane road in Georgia. Jordan was a passenger and egging his brother to go faster. They came to a yellow light and tried to stop, causing the breaks to lock.

They skidded and hit a car making a right hand turn onto the street, and hit the back going 50- 60 mph. Thankfully there were no passengers in the car.

They hit a tree and it stopped the car. They were wearing their seatbelts, and that was what saved them from being thrown from the car.

No one was seriously injured. Jordan may have broken a rib, they had bruising and the other driver had a mild neck injury.

After Effects and Inside the Experience

Jordan saw a massive white flash, which may have been the airbag. They heard a hissing sound in the engine and thought it may blow up.  It was hard to get out because the car was facing 90 degrees downward.

Jordan laid on the sidewalk, it was about 10:30 at night. They saw a man come from nowhere and asked if everyone was OK, and told him he called the police. Then he disappeared. In 5 seconds he came and disappeared.  Jordan’s brother said it may have been an angel.

 Moving On

Jordan was scared to get into a car for a while. He was disappointed for doing something so stupid, and I am thankful he is so honest in sharing this as it may help others avoid this situation.

He tried to put it out of his mind, so he could drive and move past it. It had an impact on him, he told me,

“we have one life and one opportunity to live, and it can be taken from us in one instance. We need to live life each day intentionally and passionately, and realize this may be the last time we get to do whatever we are doing.”

His Dad took his brother driving that next day, so he could get past that fear.

This experience helped Jordan conquer his fears and be able to get past fear when it comes.  There was fear to start a podcast Jordan pushed past, thankfully as

Teenage Entrepreneur inspired me to start a podcast!

Contacts

 

Miracle of ​Mindset with Dave Sanderson

Dave Sanderson

When US Airways Flight 1549, or “The Miracle on the Hudson,” ditched into the Hudson River on January 15, 2009, Dave Sanderson knew he was exactly where he was supposed to be.

The last passenger off the back of the plane on that fateful day, he was largely responsible for the well-being and safety of others, risking his own life in frigid water to help other passengers off the plane.

Despite the hazards to himself, Sanderson thought only of helping others and emerged from the wreckage with a mission: to encourage others to do the right thing.

That experience profoundly changed his life and today he travels the globe sharing his inspirational and motivational leadership messages to help people make a difference in how they do business and live their lives. #MomentsMatter You can listen to the audio interview on the Podcast: Here 

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Dave is an inspirational survivor, speaker, and author. His thoughts on leadership have made him an internationally sought-out speaker.

Put on That Plane

The day of the plane crash Dave called the travel agent and moved his 5:00 flight with a first class seat to flight 1549 so he could get home to see his wife and his four kids earlier. Everybody including Dave was put on that plane for a reason.

There was nothing unusual that day and Dave was one of the first people to get on the plane because of his status with the airway, he was chairman and flew very often. He got on the plane and paid no attention to anything but his reading but shortly after, they hit the birds.

He tells us that the first miracle was that there was only one loud boom and everyone thought that only one engine was lost. He could see the smoke out his window and had thought that the plane would make it back to La Guardia.

 This is your captain brace for impact…………….

No one survives a plane crash…. This is what Dave thought as the plane went down and he watched out the window to see when his last seconds would be.

The hit was hard, Doreen the flight attendant and the people in the back took the biggest hit. He gives her a lot of credit because she kept her wits about her even when someone opened the back door and let the water in. With 30+ years of experience her training kicked in and she made a big difference.

The person that opened the plane did what everyone is told to do, find the nearest exit and what is so fascinating, is that if the captain did what he was told to do,  Dave wouldn’t be telling this story today.

I watched the movie Sully and it had me at the edge of my seat. They did an amazing job of making one feel as if they were there and I was so charged and excited to share Dave’s story for you.

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“If you do the right thing God will take care of you”.

Dave heard his mom say, “If you do the right thing God will take care of you”. His mom had passed away in 1997 but he heard her say this and that’s why he waited in the back of the plane to make sure everyone else got out. Once he knew everyone was off the plane he got off himself.

When I asked him if he waited for everyone to get out, he responded with humbleness and said not for everyone, just the people in the back. The back was dark and filling up with freezing cold water. As he stepped over floating luggage he couldn’t tell what it was.

He waited, in waist deep  36-degree water, because there was no room for him to get onto the wing. They waited about 6 minutes for help.

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Heros

The first responders were the real hero’s Dave tells us. The ferries were cued up for the days’ work, and New York WaterWays, Arthur E. Imperatore, made the decision to give up their revenue stream that day to help rescue everyone off the plane. This is why help came so quickly and turned a tragedy into a miracle. He tells us first responders, aqua guys, fireman, the crew, the passengers and the pilot’s decision make it a real miracle.

The Baby

My daughter and I were so touched by the baby in the movie. In the movie, they showed the lady pass her baby to a male passenger to brace the baby for impact and it was so scary. I asked Dave if the baby was real and he shared that everyone came together to make sure the baby was safe. He tells us the Mom had a three-year-old as well as a baby and she was standing frozen in place in the middle of the plane wing.

Dave worked for Tony Robbins for about 10 years as head of security, he learned a lot of things about how to get attention so he yelled, “Throw the baby”. He knew she wouldn’t but it would be radical enough to get her attention and it did! Someone asked her to pass the baby to the lifeboat and Mom and children made it in safe. She sent Dave a package with a picture of her baby when she was 3 years old and a thank you.  Dave told us that everyone pulled together to make sure that even if no one survived that that baby was going to survive.

Post-Traumatic Growth Syndrome (PTG)

Why do some people get PTSD and others experience Post-Traumatic Growth? Dave was asked this question and he has been really looking into this. He will be giving a TED talk called Jolt and sharing how you can use your own personal experience to go up. The movie shows quite vividly what PTSD looks like as the Capitan of the plane would see troubling images over and over again.

Dave has had the opportunity to speak to people after traumatic events such as; Hurricane Sandy, Oklahoma tornadoes and folks in the military that go through tragedy all the time. He shares about mindset; how to manage your mind, how to ask yourself the proper questions, and how to go up instead of down after these events.

GOD

Jesus had some rough days, every day wasn’t pixie dust and sunshine, he had some rough days! He went to pray to God and Dave tells us that faith is important to him. Asking for your greater beings help is important and God was all over the plane crash.

There was a lady at the back of the plane saying the Lord’s prayer. If they didn’t all survive it reminded them they were going to a greater place than this.

What Changed?

Dave changed how he prioritized his time. His father was always gone providing for the family and Dave realized he was doing the same. After the plane crash, he realized what his kids really wanted was his time. He now schedules his time around family events.

He left his company and started his own.   Now his time revolves around family events instead of family events fitting in around his company.

In closing, not everyone experiences a plane crash, yet nearly everyone experiences a traumatic event in their life that Dave calls, your own personal plane crash. His time is in high demand and I feel blessed he took the time to share his story on the podcast for all of us. I believe that is because he believes we can all turn our own personal plane crash into a second chance. You can find out more about how by following him on Linkedin, twitter, facebook or by reading his book, Moments Matter. http://globalnews.ca/video/2525507/book-moments-matter buy it here and get a signed copy from Dave himself.

Links

Overcoming The Odds from a Car Accident with Miklós Szigeti

The doctors told Miklós Szigeti’s Mother that her son would not attend law school or function in any normal capacity by the doctors helping him after he was involved in a horrible car accident in Hungary.

Despite the doctor’s opinions, his mother refused to believe this about her son. She would not allow anyone to convince her that her son was would not recover and told others that God didn’t bring him through it if he didn’t have a plan for her son.

Her faith was strong, and she never gave up believing that he would recover. The doctors tried to have others convince her that she should have less hope, despite their attempts, she kept on praying and believing.

Praise the Lord, her son did recover and ended up becoming a Christian. He ended up changing his path from becoming a lawyer to becoming a Minister. He shared the difficulties he experienced in overcoming his physical injuries, a love story and the good news Jesus brought into his life.

Listen to the whole story on the Podcast: Here 

Links

  • Contact Miklós Szigeti at The First Hungarian Presbyterian Church 2791 E 27 th Ave, Vancouver, BC Canada
  • Music Attribution and Thank you to:  Loch Lomond