Survivors Guilt with Ryan M. Esquivel

Today on Mindset Monday, Ryan M. Esquivel shares his journey to overcome Survivors Guilt, PTSD and trauma to living a life that is full of love, joy and helping others on their own personal journey.

His journey began in February of 2004 when his roommate and best friend was killed in action. He was with him a couple of hours before he died and that moment kept playing in his head long after he returned home.

When he returned home he threw himself into work and his military relationship suffered, his personal relationships suffered, because he wanted his friend back. Ryan began to blame people and his world contracted as people began leaving him. It wasn’t until about 2008 when he experienced a one in a million moments.

A private ran into him in Southern California and asked him if he knew his roommate. It turned out that it was his best friend. They learned to value each other and became really good friends over the years. Ryan tells us that was the start of his faith, a belief in a God, energy, something out there. He began to start to put his life together and see-sawed back and forth of finding a job, losing a job, in and out of that dark place.

He discovered that you need to find the joy, your purpose and the meaning of life. It may sound cliche but when you are on a journey you learn that when you share your pain it feels better. It wasn’t until 2018 that looking back he was able to see, people had been taking care of him all along.

His Fav. Book

  • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck

  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker

As we get deep into Ryan’s journey he shares how carrying Survivors Guilt began to impact his relationship with his family. He replayed the picture in his mind and wanted to go back and change it. He realized that loving people is hard, sharing is hard and the more you love and share the easier it becomes. Listen to the whole interview to hear the whole story.

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How The Gig Economy Is Beneficial To Those With Mental Health Disorders

How The Gig Economy Is Beneficial To Those With Mental Health Disorders

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With so many people looking for more flexible job options, it’s no wonder the gig economy is doing so well. Freelance or short-term work has so many benefits, not the least of which is a positive effect on mental health. If you suffer from depression or anxiety, working for yourself can help reduce stress and other symptoms that make it difficult to function from day-to-day, since there is a lot less pressure to perform when you’re your own boss.

 

That’s not to say that working for yourself is easy; it requires some dedication and commitment because you have to hold yourself accountable every day for the amount of work that needs to be done. However, with the right mindset and a little organization, you can make your gig a success and possibly even turn it into a career rather than something that’s just temporary.

 

Keep reading to find out more on how the gig economy can help when you’re living with a mental health disorder.

 

Work from home

 

While every gig is different, in many cases you can work from home and make extra money. Blogging or freelance writing, creating items to sell in an online shop, or becoming a virtual assistant are great places to start, but it’s imperative that you have a comfortable and distraction-free place to work. This means setting up a home office or workspace that will allow you to get things done without worrying about your timeline. Getting organized will help you stay on top of all your jobs so that your clients will keep coming back.

 

Set your own hours

 

Living with a mental health disorder can wreak havoc on your ability to function from day-to-day; you may have issues with getting enough rest, making it hard to concentrate at work, or you might struggle with anxiety that makes it difficult to be in an office setting. Working in the gig economy often means you get to set your own hours, allowing you to work when you feel the most productive so you can focus your energy on your needs.

 

Experience being an entrepreneur

 

Many people would love to start their own business but are wary of jumping into a decision that could cost them dearly if it doesn’t pan out. With the gig economy, you can experience many of the same things an entrepreneur does without taking on the risks. Whether you want to open up an Etsy store or work for a ride-share service, there are many ways you can get the benefits of being your own boss without having to take big financial risks.

 

Establish a routine

 

Many individuals who work in the gig economy need to establish a routine to help them organize their day; this helps them get their work done in a timely fashion and prevents anxiety and stress, both of which are hugely beneficial for people who are living with depression or other mental health issues. Finding a routine will prevent you from overworking yourself or from worrying about whether or not you remembered to get everything done at the end of the day.

Living with a mental health disorder can be exhausting, but it doesn’t have to prevent you from having the job you want. Do some research on the types of gigs available to you online or locally, and get organized from the get-go so that you’ll feel in control. With a good plan, you can start earning money quickly and become your own boss.

This is a Guest Post

Brad Krause graduated from college in 2010 and went straight to the corporate world at the headquarters of a popular retail company. But what started as a dream job soured quickly. After four years of working 15-hour days and neglecting his health, he decided enough was enough. Through aiding a friend during a tough time, Brad discovered his real calling-helping people implement self-care practices that improve their overall wellbeing. He created SelfCaring.info to share his own knowledge and the many great resources he finds on his self-care journey.

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Second Chance Story with Rachel Barber

When Rachel first found out she had Mitochondrial Dysfunction and experienced her body shutting down she had nearly lost all hope. Severe fatigue and muscle pain had kept her unable to live the life she desired and she took a big risk to find the doctor that kicked off her healing journey. 

She took her life into her own hands and went on a journey to achieve the life of her dreams.

Second Chance Story

Rachel’s Second Chance Story began seven years ago when she began to experience pains and aches in her body.  She ended up being limited to only seven foods as they were causing her excruciating pain in her entire body. She was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Small Intestine Bacteria Overgrowth. Rachel saw several doctors without any success towards healing. She made the decision to take a big leap in faith and invested everything she had to go see a doctor in California.

Turn Around Point

The doctor in California introduced her to a program that helps retrain your brain. Rachel committed to it was so invested in the training she did it on her wedding night and honeymoon. For 6 months she did it every day and found incredible results.

Rachel changed her diet and it calmed her inflammation and cleared her brain fog so she could focus on the program. She started supplementation months through the journey when her body began to accept them.

Every Day Is A Second Chance to: Get clear on what your purpose on this earth is and follow it.

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Cerebral Palsy Warrior with Heather Hancock

Heather was born premature and with Cerebral palsy. She was the first handicapped child mainstreamed into Calgary, Alberta’s public school system and subjected to many years of bullying and abuse. At the age of two, her parents were told that she was to be put into an institution because she would never amount to anything. She is on this show sharing her story because they were very wrong.

She had to overcome the damage that was done and when Heather was only 14 years old she was suicidal and had made a plan.

She tells us God had a plan that was greater for her and that she experienced his love and realized this at an event she attended.

Her dream of becoming a nurse couldn’t be due to the physical pain and limitations that CP caused her and she shares a story that includes multiple mindset shifts coupled with the will to go on despite challenges.

In this inspiring interview, she shares her journey to becoming a Christian Inner Healing Coach. She helps Woman overcome deep, deep wounds by shifting their mindset to come into alignment with God’s mindset.

Favorite Book

Favorite Podcast

Lisa Bevere’s I Am Adamant

Scripture Mentioned James 1:2-4

2Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,1:2 The Greek word for brothers and sisters (adelphoi) refers here to believers, both men and women, as part of God’s family; also in verses 16 and 19; and in 2:1, 5, 14; 3:10, 12; 4:11; 5:7, 9, 10, 12, 19.whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

Psalm 139:13-14

13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

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4-Day Work Week with Wade Galt

Mindset Monday

Wade hosts the 4-Day Work Week Entrepreneur podcast and is committed to helping 4,444,444 people create their own 4-day work week lifestyle. Wade has a Bachelor’s Degree in Marketing, a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling Psychology, and
has been a Certified Integrative (Life) Coach with the (Debbie) Ford Institute.

When he’s not working, he enjoys spending time with family and friends, traveling the world, coaching youth sports and playing beach volleyball on Fridays.

He lives happily with his wife, children, and dog in Naples, Florida.

In this episode, he shares his journey to living the life of the 4-day work week as well as the mindset shift that is needed to start working towards this.  It is a process he tells us that should usually take time and starts with the first step. The Podcast interview is available on Anchor: Here 

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The Mindset to Perform with Katrina Froese

When I went to the Place Maillardville Community Centre for a community event I was drawn to the Princess table and shortly after her performance began. My son and granddaughter were very excited and it didn’t take long for a huge crowd of people to come over. Many were filming and taking pictures as she performed.

What really captivated me was how she sang as if no one was in the room. Her eyes were on the kids and the performance was spectacular. I reached out and asked Katrina Froese to share her story on the show so we could all learn the strategies she learned to be a successful Professional Princess.

In this podcast interview, we explore the journey she went on before she opened her business. her mindset while she is performing and more. You can find out more information about the work she does or book a party for your own children or class by clicking on the links below.

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Arthritis Under 30 with Jacob McCrae

Jacob McCrae was diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis (Rheumatoid) in his 20’s, mind blowing right? He shares the difficulties he faced and the amazing journey he went on to lose over 90 lbs, find exercises that were doable with Arthritis and then he went on to help others.

Getting to know him

Jacob lives in Richmond and works for a company helping reduce food waste. On his spare time, he works on a vlog and blog to share his story about how Arthritis has affected his life.
He was a full-time student working on his computer science degree. He had a bad fall and hurt his shoulder. He wasn’t able to use his arm to write and began writing with his left arm. It was April 2013 and slowly his body began to hurt. His left arm was soar to write with and it progressed to feeling as if he had aches and pains.
When he turned 30 in 2017, he decided to make a change and has lost about 90lbs so far. While working out he had to find modifications for exercises, as well as learn to push through the chronic pain from arthritis in the joints of his fingers, hands, wrists, hips, knees, ankles and toes.
He was so surprised that he could have Arthritis at a young age and did some research on google. Soon he realized that children can have Arthritis and he began to ask the question, how do they get on with their lives, the pain is so great?
Jacob was going through the stages of coming to accept such a difficult diagnosis and was angry. He was angry and blamed himself, and sometimes still doesn’t accept it. Scientists don’t even understand why we get it as far as he knows, he invited you to educate him if you know more!

Asking for Help

Jacob accepted his wife’s help on the odd occasion yet was very independent. He began to feel gratitude for simple abilities such as putting on socks, zipping zippers and buttoning buttons.

Change

Change came and it started with a decision. He decided that once he turned 30 he was going to become healthy. Jacob purchased a plan, Danny Gets Fit. He binge listened to Rob Dial and improved his mindset. Improvements took place and then he fell back temporarily into a dark place.
This is where he realized that if he listened to a good podcast at least once a week he was good. Mindset is really important, a quote from Rob, “You can not solve a problem with the mind that created it.”
Jacob began the Keto diet and found that it made him feel much better. He tells us he loves it, and I wanted to remind you to check with your doctor to ensure it is safe for you to try.
His mindset was better, he knew he deserved better and he left his job. Today he works remotely for a company that is able to support his needs to have good self-care when his Arthritis flares up.
As you can see Jacob really turned his life around despite the difficulties he faced. He shares his story to inspire you and invites you to reach out to him. You can hear the entire interview here or on his youtube channel below. You can listen to the whole interview: Here 

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Life Happens, Live It! With Jake French

In the blink of an eye, Jake’s life changed course and he ended up being paralyzed from the chin down. In just a few short days, he made the decision to choose to adopt the motto Life Happens, Live it! It took some time for him to live that motto to its fullest and he shares his journey with us here.

I want to thank Joel from Relaunch for introducing me to Jake.  What really inspired me to share Jake’s story was listening to the podcast Mere Mortals Unite, with Julie Ann Sullivan.

Jake tells us that people can see his wheelchair so they know exactly what he is dealing with, but other people have some kind of wheelchair that we just can’t see.

He is a University of Idaho graduate and a huge fan of anything outdoors.

Despite the difficulties he has encountered in his life, he is able to make others smile and turn things away from a victim mindset into a being the leader and speaker that he is today.

His Second Chance Story

Jake was on top of the world and, celebrating receiving his degree, to work in his dream job in forestry. He had been drinking and celebrating when he ran into his old childhood best friend. A freak accident took place between when his friend took him down in a headlock, and Jake couldn’t brace his fall landing head first in the pavement. He later found out he became a C6 Quadriplegic that evening. Sharing his story, we will find out how he was able to find happiness in a different way that he had planned the day he had graduated.

The Turn Around Point

When he was in the therapy room he was surrounded by people who were really hurting. He witnessed another patient whom’s way of looking at her situation changed his whole perspective. This is when he began to look around and realize that he was not the worst off in the world. He committed to healing as victoriously as he was able to.

You can listen to the whole interview to hear all the details of Jake’s experience.

A Closer Look

 What about you changed the most from this experience?

Jake was no longer able to do many of the things he once could. He tells us how his Mom was amazing and taught him to never give up. With his perseverance and courage, he learned how to do many things again including driving.

What is one piece of guidance you would like to share with us?

He tells us a hilarious story about how someone brought him a hot pink wheelchair and his friends had a good laugh and called it ManGenta. He asks what has happened in your life that you can turn into you own ManGenta situation and how can you find the funny in the situation?

What is one resource you couldn’t have made it without?

Never Give Up! Success in Life Is an Attitude Paperback – 2005.                                                                                             by Ron Heagy (Author),‎ Donita Dyer (Author) https://www.amazon.com/Never-Give-Success-Life-Attitude/dp/0975417207

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