How do you free yourself from the struggles and pains that started in the generations before you were born? What happens when a parent is not equipped with everything they need to parent well, and they are not able to learn the skills necessary? Our guest today shares his story of a difficult and dark start to life, followed by struggle nearly ending with suicide. He takes us on his journey where he found God, hope and healing. We will hear how he found forgiveness, love and freed himself from the chains of addiction and anger.
Today Rob shares: How to Rebuild Your Life After Trying To Take It & Find Hope And Healing In Jesus.Rob Decker: Husband, Father, Personal Fitness Trainer, Health Coach, Best Selling Author, Speaker.
Rob has a beautiful wife that he has been married to for 5 years and a son with a baby on the way. He is sharing a difficult testimony to give others hope. Fitness and faith are a cornerstone for him today.
Rob’s Testimony starts with his Mom. She had a difficult childhood that included: rape, abuse and neglect. She was thrown from foster home to foster home and was encouraged to have an abortion when she became pregnant with Rob.
Being against abortion, she married the man that Rob knew as his Dad. Rob found out a little later that this man was not his Dad and was not allowed to use his last name.
This created separation, strife and division between Rob and his sister. This man, referred to as his father, was an x military fighter in the military and his parenting style conflicted with his Mom’s. Rob witnessed a lot of violence, drug use and darkness. By the time he was a teenager, his Dad had left his Mom and everyone he loved was on Meth.
This is an inspiring story and you won’t want to miss all of the details, you can listen on the Podcast: Here
At the young age of 14 or 15 Rob began his journey of using and drinking. He experienced:
Being in a dozen fights
Having a shotgun pulled on him
Getting very verbal with people
Being evicted from his house
In Rob’s 20 he experienced a chain of bad relationships. If a relationship was good he sabotaged it himself. He met a man that preached about Jesus Christ and he was not yet open to hearing about him.
In total survivor mode, Rob made poor choices that included selling drugs and becoming involved in a dangerous and destructive relationship.
Rob was working out and at that time was the only positive thing he had done with his time. In the pain of another relationship ending, he accepted the offer to attend a bible study and accepted the Salvation offered through Jesus Christ.
A Dark Night
After his new found faith he ended up with the girl he had ended the relationship with. In a heated argument, he went downstairs and fell asleep. Rob woke to the Police banging on the door and she told him that she told the police he had raped and beat her.
Rob’s emotions became too much to handle and he jumped out of the third story window. On the way down, his foot clipped an awning and changed the direction of his fall. Instead of dying, Rob found himself looking up, unable to move in a tremendous amount of pain.
At this moment, Rob asked God why he let him live? His plan had not gone the way he had expected. In excruciating pain, Rob was arrested for rape and put under 24-hour surveillance. The officer told him he was a bad person right before she showed up at the hospital.
Conversation With God
After she was shown out of the hospital Rob had a conversation with God. He asked what was going to happen? In the moment of conversation, he was given great peace. He heard a voice that told him the charges would be dropped, the bills paid and that he would walk again. Rob dosed off into a dream of playing soccer.
He woke up and the light, sounds and pain was all back. The charges were dropped and he was allowed to have guests. You can hear the whole story on the Podcast interview: Here
What We Learn:
How his Mom responded when she visited
How he walked again
The forgiveness he found for others
Building a relationship with his Mom
Receiving a bill for $800K+.
Faith In Action
While Rob was healing some Christian brothers from church picked him up and brought him to church back brace and all. He was broken and beaten and kept turning to God. Living with his Mom was not working as she was taking his pain meds and he ended up staying with friends. Rob went for long walks, read his bible and prayed a lot. He knew that God didn’t want him to continue to live off of Disability and despite the immense pain, he continued taking steps to heal
For a couple of years, Rob lived out of a garage. He had been a Personal Trainer prior to the accident took a job at a gym for a short time. He was asked to train his bosses roommate and she became his wife.
Rob’s wife was a big part of his ability to quit drinking. With God’s help and a nine-month battle, Rob quit drinking. Not before making a big mistake. Rob drove under the influence of alcohol and crashed her car. In the moments of difficulty, Rob negotiated with God and asked for his help. He agreed to move with her, marry her and quit drinking.
God basically bailed Rob out of the situation and he quit drinking. What is amazing, he had no desire to drink again. They moved out to Colorado Springs and started a family. God opened some amazing doors for Rob and he began doing work that really helped people spiritually and emotionally.
Faith and Fitness
Rob brought his experience healing from a life of trauma and difficulty and his love of fitness together. He is now able to have deep conversations with people while helping them to strengthen their physical bodies at the same time.
His wife and himself are creating a ministry in their garage. It is a place where people can feel safe to share their past and find forgiveness, fellowship and support. Rob can help them to :
Get off of drugs
Talk about God
Do Pushups and Prayer
Do Jumping Jacks and Jesus
Find Faith, family and Fitness.
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